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Originally Posted by DalTXColtsFan
Here's a quick update on the situation:
The wife and I did sit down and have a talk. The long and short of it is she is convinced I'm a gambling addict. She even talks behind my back to *her* family about how scared she is that I have a "vice". When I give her all the evidence to the contrary, like how many times I've gone 9 months without going to the casino and the time I stopped going to the casino EVEN THOUGH I WAS UP FOR THE YEAR out of respect for HER feelings, her response is simply "all of your denials are just evidence of your addiction".
This changes things a bit IMHO. It's not about a power struggle (she has NEVER actually STOPPED me from going to the casino), it's not about finances, it's about her feelings.
It makes no sense - she knows alcoholics and drug addicts, so she knows that there's no way any of them could go 9 months without a drink or drug. We even have a friend who had to divorce her husband because he gambled away their daughter's college tuition on sports betting. I'm nowhere NEAR that bad, not even close.
If it was about her being controlling or manipulative or bossy I could tell her listen just let me do what I enjoy, I'm *not* irresponsible, but since she's genuinely scared it's a totally different story.
Why do you have to play for such large sums of money? If it's a hobby that you do for enjoyment, play for play money online. If it's the social aspect of live poker that you like, organise a home game with friends and play for pennies. There is simply no need to lose such large sums of money if you're only playing the game for enjoyment.
So my question is this: why do you need to waste money like this, when you have other low cost poker options available to you?
Secondly, with all due respect, why are you still so bad at the game? You've been playing for 5 years, 2600 posts on 2+2, had coaching, read books, presumably watched videos also. And yet you lose $50/hour at the game. $1/$2 NLHE/PLO, ~30 hands/hour at live poker, this is equivalent to approximately -75bb/100. This is a HUGE loss rate. Do you just not get the game? Are you mentally challenged in any way? I don't understand how someone puts this much effort into the game and has such a massive loss rate.
In fact, I don't believe you have such a big loss rate. I have more faith in you - I don't believe you can be THAT bad. You must play much higher stakes than you say (you said you play $4/$8 LHE, but I'm ignoring that because you say your loss rate on that is only $6/hour).