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Old 08-08-2017, 06:17 PM   #1
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How to control anger and pain?

I been playing poker for money for at least 5 years and I won some and lost some but I think I broke even over all but I still get angry and feel pain when i lose especially if I make the final table and get bad beats. I made it up to the level of being nice and saying nice game and walk away without saying anything else but once I'm around 5 minutes away I get mad and curse and start talking to my self and feel a lot of pain. Is there any good way to deal with these feelings? Is it just me? I know it's illogical to behave this way but i can't help it. What should I do? I'm not looking for sympathy because I know I wouldn't get it from here or anywhere because ppl seem to frown on gamblers but I'm not looking for any just new ways on how to control my feelings.
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Old 08-08-2017, 09:01 PM   #2
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Re: How to control anger and pain?

its called the "mental game". You hear that all sports is 90% is in the mind, this is more true for poker because you can play 100% perfectly and still lose time after time.

Awareness and breathing techniques can be helpful, but just training yourself overtime can have real benefit, try youtube videos even a book called the mental game of poker
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Old 08-12-2017, 04:34 PM   #3
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its called the "mental game". You hear that all sports is 90% is in the mind, this is more true for poker because you can play 100% perfectly and still lose time after time.

Awareness and breathing techniques can be helpful, but just training yourself overtime can have real benefit, try youtube videos even a book called the mental game of poker
Thanks I will try the things you mentioned
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Old 08-16-2017, 03:17 AM   #4
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Re: How to control anger and pain?

No, you are definitely not the only one for sure. I have had my fair share of outbursts and curse-filled rants after bad beat hands. But over time, it has gotten better for me. While I haven't tried any psychological techniques, I've noticed that over time I have started to 'coach' myself thru those times when a big pot is brewing and while I might have the second or third or fourth nuts, I tell myself there will be a percentage of the time when my opponent just has it and this might be it. And with this, it makes the pain/anger reaction come and go much faster. I guess it's teaching myself that percentages play out this way. Time and experience doesn't eliminate it, but it does lessen it.
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Old 08-16-2017, 06:10 AM   #5
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Re: How to control anger and pain?

there is a book called the mental game of poker, i think thats a must read for any aspiring online player
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Old 08-16-2017, 07:23 PM   #6
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No, you are definitely not the only one for sure. I have had my fair share of outbursts and curse-filled rants after bad beat hands. But over time, it has gotten better for me. While I haven't tried any psychological techniques, I've noticed that over time I have started to 'coach' myself thru those times when a big pot is brewing and while I might have the second or third or fourth nuts, I tell myself there will be a percentage of the time when my opponent just has it and this might be it. And with this, it makes the pain/anger reaction come and go much faster. I guess it's teaching myself that percentages play out this way. Time and experience doesn't eliminate it, but it does lessen it.
Thanks. I believe i'm getting better because I didn't get mad in my last bad beat and I even stayed to watch the rest of the tourney and enjoyed watching others get sucked out on. One trick that worked was I told myself what ever happens I will not get mad and just except it and it worked plus me staying there probably helped because I didn't want to look like a fool near the table.
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Old 08-16-2017, 07:24 PM   #7
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there is a book called the mental game of poker, i think thats a must read for any aspiring online player
Thanks, i heard about that book and I just ordered it from the library last week and should arrive soon.
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Old 10-05-2017, 02:29 PM   #8
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Re: How to control anger and pain?

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Old 10-07-2017, 04:10 PM   #9
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just finished reading the book and I believe it helped me a lot. Thanks guys
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Old 10-25-2017, 04:37 PM   #10
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I have destroyed all the knuckles on my right hand and now I feel no pain when I punch.
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Old 10-30-2017, 06:26 PM   #11
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breathing is a tool we often forget
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