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Originally Posted by Lottery Larry
Why? Is the explaination in your league thread?
Not my property. We've have the sword of damocles hanging over our head ever since the beginning, and we were even kicked out in '09. This past year has been a gift, but now they're finally converting the space for other uses.
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Originally Posted by Lottery Larry
So, there's no one you can trust, or partner up with, to run the league? Too bad... but I bet it's a ton of work, regardless.
We'll see. Tournaments were always a loss-leader, as I usually make bank in the cash games. The League was initially a way for me to get others to back me in the WSOP, but now all those others got good, and it's harder for me to win. Far too much effort without a support staff, and it's time I'm not playing cash games. Basically I'm giving up a day's income in order to do more work. They're fun, but not THAT fun.
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Originally Posted by Lottery Larry
It's hard to read between the lines accurately, but a lot of this seems more about your taking things personally.
I think the problem is because I never took it personally enough. There have been signs through the years, but despite my asking people to come to me with problems, most only made little passing hints here and there. I brushed it off as, "He's just goofy, doesn't mean it personally." It's a MTT, so I'll sometimes not even be at the same table with someone for months, and not recognize the patterns. Until recently, nobody mentioned him specifically as the reason for no longer playing, but now that that's been happening, I can more easily connect all the dots.
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Originally Posted by Lottery Larry
That's YOUR definition of "personal," not his. I'm willing to bet that someone with his mentality will translate "it's not personal, it's business" into
"You're being personal but trying to hide".
That's his problem, not mine. Stepping away from the situation, I realize how much he has been disrespecting everything about the game for quite a long time, and brushing off my attempts to discuss the behavior directly.
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Originally Posted by DougO
This is really being overthought. Just a direct, but diplomatic 5-10 minute conversation and then if the behavior continues, he knew the consequences.
I know myself, and I know if I don't over-think it ahead of time, the conversation will not be 5-10 minutes. And if I didn't have the specific situation of this league, I wouldn't care as much about being fair.
If you've never dealt with a personality disordered person before, it's difficult to realize how easy it is to get twisted around once you're enmeshed with them.
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Originally Posted by eneely
Is this a tactic on his part to get everyone on tilt? How is he away from the table? Or do you ever see him socially other than poker?
It could be, which means it's even crappier on his part than just being oblivious.
I've only hung out with him socially a couple of times, but we have been friendly. My previous attempts to discuss his personality conflicts with others have not gone well.
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Originally Posted by Schmendr1ck
This guy sounds like an attention whore who happens to be a decent player. Laying down the law as you've done sounds like an appropriate step, but I suspect you're just prolonging the inevitable.
I am. Since I had no provision for "stay in line or you're out" in the league rules, it would be really really crapy for me to just kick out the league leader. It would destroy any respect anybody else has left for me.
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Originally Posted by Zappa
Don't leave it to the organizer, several of the regulars should volunteer to let this guy know he's out of the group - forever.
My group, my responsibility. I think I'm handling it well enough. I've had long conversations with him the past, and I've laid out "STOP DOING THIS" rules to the "group" before (but aimed a lot at him). None of it worked, and this last game he was worse than I've ever seen him.
Hard, solid boundaries. That's the only way. I will not engage. He's had more than enough chances. His response has always been to act persecuted, rather than recognize and correct the behavior.