Thanks for the responses. As I see this thread go on, my expectations switch from getting solutions, to getting thought provoking feedback.
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You might be better off saying "To be honest, I don't know, Uncle. So far, I feel like this hobby works for me and I'm not compulsive about it. I'm learning a lot about intelligent decision-making from it, and also about myself. I like having you around, though, so you can tell me if I'm not being rational. I know it's hard to see these things sometimes and it's good to have someone I can trust keeping an eye on me".
This is something I'll probably say. If I voice myself as knowing what will and won't happen, I'll seem naive in his eyes. Thank you for the advice.
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You're only bringing one buyin? That's a warning sign that your expectations are suspect. Or maybe that's shot-taking money and a stop-loss, but I'm not sure I'm hearing you say that.
When I go to a live cash game, I usually bring two buy-ins. I had already set aside the $100 for the game, then I found out that max buy-in is $100, and also that most people buy in full. If it were just me going to this game, I would bring two buy-ins ($200), but I think that wouldn't be the best given the situation. Also, I misrepresented my bankroll. I had about 3k total, but I had to dip into that for college, as some financial aid was misrepresented, etc etc.
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Originally Posted by Brooklyn_Zoo
How old are OP and uncle?
I'm 18 and uncle is ~60.
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Originally Posted by eneely
Unless his uncle is already onto something, and kbinferno cannot see the symptoms of a problem he is already exhibiting.
I know I have nothing to prove to you, but to better see things from my point of view, and hope to see how my uncle may be misunderstanding
I've never shown signs of an addictive personality (judging from some signs I read about). I've always been fairly studious; schoolwork first then free-time. He knows that, and part of me thinks that he thinks this is one of the hobbies that, since it has to do with money, will eventually consume me. I tried to explain to him the self-exclude option, and how I regularly take advantage of it when I'm tilting and/or sick to avoid losses, but I don't think he quite understands that. Which sucks, cause I believe that would aid in my trying to prove my fiscal responsibility.
Another thing is I don't play all day every day. I only play when I'm at my dorm, because that's where I'm most comfortable. I usually play enough to make Iron Man for that day, and no more unless I have some momentum on the session, which I'll ride out and quit soon after. This results in a <2hr session. And I only play when I don't have any homework that needs completion.
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Originally Posted by psandman
How about inviting him to join you for something other than gambling. Go to a sporting event, or go fishing, or whatever it is you guys like to do other than gambling. If he is concerned that you gamble to much, prove him wrong by involving him in the other things you like to do.
Because it seems to me a very valid concern when the only thing he sees you doing is playing poker, and when he expresses that concern you point out him that you actually play more than he was aware.
That's a good point. I probably made it seem worse. Being in college full-time makes activities off-campus inconvenient, since he'd have to drive ~1hr one way to come get me. During the summer though, the two of us get together and skeet shoot, crab, and do yardwork.