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Originally Posted by attentionnoone
But RJ has a part in this too.
She never trusted me to pay her, even though after working with me, she should know I border on obsessive compulsive with the math. If it's one penny off it bothers me. There is no reason not to trust me because I'm not going anywhere and she knows it.
This is an unresolved issue, and she needs to trust me, and pass me on. I can't do biz in the poker community until her account is settled, so she should have let me play, and trust me to pay her.
She should always know my debts with her are good and take it for granted. I still think it's irresponsible to post me as a thief bc she knows me well enough to know I don't give a **** about the money.
I feel like this issue is holding me hostage from playing.
Now that you understand the money part of this, try, for once, to put yourself in her shoes. You've owed her over $900 for almost 3 years, or however long it's been. She certainly doesn't know that you're not going anywhere, or that she can trust you. You need to build that trust again.
As for "she should have let you play"; how's she stopping you? If you mean you need her to give you some kind of unequivocally positive reference, there's no way that could or should happen. But I bet if you set up a payment schedule and started to follow through, she'd be happy to tell prospective backers that you've done so.
I'm being pretty kind here - really, the thought that while all of this was outstanding, that she should have automatically trusted you to pay her is way beyond ridiculous. How could she trust you to pay her when you didn't do it for all this time, and refused to believe that you even owed the money. As I type this and think about it more, I'm increasingly flabbergasted at what you've said and am going to stop now before I say something...less complimentary.
Just get this looked after. You're not going to clean up your reputation overnight, but you've got to start somewhere. And of course it's the right thing to do.