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Originally Posted by granddam
Rasta, I have found the post I was looking for.
#265 in the ITT we discuss the shy and gameless thread. You discuss the stereotypical woman that you WON'T be dating. I don't know how to copy it here. Take a look and tell me what you think.
Yeah found it, here it is:
"Seems to make sense but at my age isn't a fair old degree of sexual competence rather expected? Like I say (and I know I've probably overstated this but honestly, you've got to take my word for this guys) I'm pretty outgoing and come across as fairly confident. I'm not going to be dating an awkward, obese, female-gamer-nerd-virgin stereotype with the cynicism to accept that she'll jolly well get what she's given."
I think the bolded is something I haven't communicated well.
What I was trying to communicate to Sgt. RJ was that I'm a relatively decent-looking and socially well-adjusted guy and that my virginity really was down to ED rather than a lack of admirers.
I wanted to make clear I wasn't just some fat gross stereotype willing to settle for whatever I got or looking for a female version of that.
I mean I quite like girls with a geeky side to be honest. Obviously obese is a deal-breaker as I wouldn't find the girl sexually attractive.
But in terms of red flags? I don't know. People don't really wear them on their sleeve but I suppose one good example would be a girl that was obviously quite keen on me in 3rd year who I hooked up with several times.
I found out that she had a bf and was essentially cheating on him with me and I did find that very off-putting. There's no excuse for cheating. If finding action with other people trumps staying faithful then the right thing to do is to respectfully bring the relationship to a close.
What else? Oh yeah, I remember one girl who was a utilitarian saying that she was comfortable with cheating on her bf on the basis that the happiness of all three parties was boosted by doing so.
Naturally I wouldn't dream of getting into a relationship with someone like that.