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Originally Posted by Howard Treesong
Seems to me that's missing the point. People may care, but you can 100 per cent avoid the problem by never telling them. That you have the complete ability to opt out of the problem whenever you want makes all the difference.
I guess its a little different from the stereotype for me as I wasn't a virgin in the traditional sense (i.e lack of a willing partner - of that those there were about half-a-dozen very clear-cut ones in Uni).
My problem was that I suffered from ED and because of that, was so clearly nervous and clueless that any girl I was with would have instantly cottoned onto the fact that I was a virgin based on my actions (as opposed to someone who simply fails to find a willing partner due to being physically undesirable but can rock 'n' roll from the word go once he does manage to find someone).
I tried to have sex for the first time when I was 19, couldn't get it up, tried it again later that year with a different girl (both of them were external to my social group so there was 1) no blowback and 2) I could just let people assume I'd got laid just fine) and failed again.
After that I declined to have sex with a girl I really liked who was indeed within our social group as I knew that I'd have to reveal that I was a virgin and there'd be a clear path from her>best friend>her best friend's bf > everyone else.
I was right to do so, as when I finally gave it another go with a girl in a different social group and failed yet again, then it all came down with all of that lot finding out that I was a 21-year-old virgin, and honestly, I lost a lot of respect.
Anyway, the Sexodus thread has been done and I really can look back on that as one of the few challenges in life that I've truly BTFO. I love shagging my gf now and it turns out I'm actually really good at it!
I also think I'll be completely capable of getting quite a bit of variety in my love life once that relationship runs its course, so I feel well-equipped for that too.
With Brazil and sex accomplished as well as having got over a year's experience under my belt in my job, I'm feeling a lot more positive about things now.
I just need to get my driving licence, get *some* kind of a job that will allow me to move out, and I can hopefully start making some real progress in life. I just need a job that'll pay me £24k or so in order to move out!