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Old 12-03-2017, 02:29 PM   #2951
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I did some research on Japanese dating culture because I felt like I was putting her off a little bit. Every date so far has been initiated by her, and I was reading that in Japan the woman typically pursues the man and it can be a turn off if the role’s are reversed.

Communication has kinda tapered off, we have plans on christmas and at the end of next week (her ideas) but havent hung out since we had sex.

I’m kind of anxious and insecure about this, talked to my therapist about it and she thinks i have nothing to worry about. I’m going to try to be aloof and focus on my own **** and let her come to me.
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Old 12-03-2017, 02:40 PM   #2952
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I made some miscalculations with a Filipina woman I dated because I supposed her attitudes would be more traditional than they were. Basically I was afraid she'd be expecting us to get married or something way way earlier than typical Americans would expect. I pretty much made a fool of myself and was so bad at communicating that she completely misunderstood me. She was 28 and was in the US about half her life.

Anyway, it's just a thought that you should beware of overestimating how different your girl is because she's Japanese.

Being intentionally aloof sounds bad for a couple reasons to me. Primarily it's just better to be yourself, act how you feel like, and let the world take you as you are as much as possible. If you want to write her sonnets and serenade her, then do it and don't even question the strategic value imo. As Lloyd Bridges (I think) said in the movie Cousins, you only get one life, are you going to make it chicken **** or chicken salad?

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Old 12-03-2017, 02:41 PM   #2953
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Idk what else to really do right now but feel like backing off for a few days might be the best play

She’s like really, really japanese, didnt come to the states til she was 21 and didnt speak english
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Old 12-03-2017, 04:04 PM   #2954
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Dating people from very different cultures can be tricky, and there's a chance that, like you, shes done her research and is waiting for you to take the lead,

You just need to be natural with her (well, within reason lol) and stop trying to work out what the best move is because if this has any miles in it, which were al hoping it does, because she sounds sweet and good for you, that will have to come eventually anyway.

She's moved to the US, and a huge, probably the main, part of that is assimilating into another culture.
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Old 12-03-2017, 04:21 PM   #2955
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Old 12-03-2017, 04:47 PM   #2956
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Meh. People hardly even know themselves. Talk is cheap. Just go do something fun. Fun to talk ratio should be huge. But, I'm a pretty bad talker so take that for what it's worth.

Dating someone from another culture is fun because there are so many things that they have never done that you can do with them and vice versa.
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Old 12-03-2017, 09:35 PM   #2957
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Meh. People hardly even know themselves. Talk is cheap. Just go do something fun. Fun to talk ratio should be huge. But, I'm a pretty bad talker so take that for what it's worth.

Dating someone from another culture is fun because there are so many things that they have never done that you can do with them and vice versa.
yea, i'm a big believer in this post

so far we have plans to go snowboarding christmas. she said she wanted to hang out on friday, i'm probably going to make her dinner. then at some point before christmas i want to take her on an evening boat ride to see all the decorations.
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Old 12-06-2017, 02:00 AM   #2958
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Idk what love is other than a dumb chemical in your brain used by evolution to make you procreate, but i am all up in it
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Old 12-06-2017, 04:38 AM   #2959
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Old 12-06-2017, 07:55 AM   #2960
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Fun fact: love isn't more dumber than any other emotion.
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Old 12-06-2017, 08:37 AM   #2961
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Love is wonderful and contrary to popular belief it actually gets better the longer you are in love.
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Old 12-06-2017, 08:56 AM   #2962
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Idk what love is other than a dumb chemical in your brain used by evolution to make you procreate, but i am all up in it

Serotonin and dopamine FTW!
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Old 12-06-2017, 09:28 AM   #2963
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Love means never having to say you're sorry.
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Old 12-06-2017, 03:10 PM   #2964
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Old 12-06-2017, 05:13 PM   #2965
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Old 12-06-2017, 05:34 PM   #2966
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Old 12-07-2017, 12:25 AM   #2967
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Hahahaha good lord guys
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Old 12-07-2017, 04:45 AM   #2970
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Old 12-07-2017, 09:47 AM   #2971
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How about the epic captain and tenille song, “Muskrat Love?”
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Old 12-08-2017, 12:07 AM   #2972
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she's coming over again tonight and we had a very nice evening on monday. if it comes up i might have 'the talk' about what we are but it seems kind of implicit at this point
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she's coming over again tonight and we had a very nice evening on monday. if it comes up i might have 'the talk' about what we are but it seems kind of implicit at this point
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Old 12-08-2017, 01:22 PM   #2974
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lol this morning did not go very well. she gets upset because i don't come from sex. she thinks it's her. then she was telling me that she doesn't feel sexy and like she has the body of an elementary school student (lol not even close to true).

It was a weird conversation that I didn't really know how to deal with so we kinda left off on that note. I told her I liked her and am very attracted to her.
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Old 12-08-2017, 05:27 PM   #2975
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Nvm i think it’s fine. I want to go off my meds, this side effect is not so fun.
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