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Old 03-11-2018, 11:57 PM   #1901
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Rexx,

I appreciate the spirit of yours, but I really don't need any protection from MLYLT. She did trigger me like she almost always does. I thought about kicking her butt and decided to refrain from that, because what good should come out of it? It has zero entertainment value, she ain't gonna change and my time is too precious for such games.

I didn't even think about fertility in this context. I am also meanwhile perfectly fine in discussing it/talking about it. If anyone has any interest in this topic, I can do a kind of AMA about infertility in this blog.

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Old 03-12-2018, 12:03 AM   #1902
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Sorry for my outburst in your log Lapka. Someone close to me is having fertility issues atm. I am giving myself an infraction for my poor posting in your log.
If I can help with any info, just ask. There is a bunch of stuff I wish I had knew before.
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Old 03-12-2018, 12:35 AM   #1903
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You're right you are well and truly equipped to deal with Mlylt if necessary and you are also correct that she isn't worthy of any attention. She is just like an annoying fly that hangs around that you generally ignore but occasionally want to swat.

Regarding fertility issues and ivf and my friend it's a bit awkward as she is very sensitive about it and doesn't like to talk about it, which I understand and respect. I just so want everything to work out for her and her husband and they have a baby. They would be really good parents.
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Old 03-12-2018, 01:10 AM   #1904
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It is especially when you are in the midst of it just a piece of crap. Feelings like "what I did to deserve it", oscillating hopes and crushing hopes, feelings of betrayal by the medicine. ......

For me worst thing from outside was any trace of pity. What helped is treatment of the situation as normal. You know this taking out of the heaviness, of this feeling that this ivf defines me. I am so much more. And clearly the ivf is important for your friend, but I am sure she is more than that.

The ivf itself..... the most important thing for me was to realize that it is big money business for clinics and A LOT comes from that.
I would ensure that a proper diagnostic is done beforehand. There are a bunch of issues with which ivf makes not much sense, but it is still done, because it is big money.

I would read and really understand all various protocols that can be applied. And if the doc suggests a special one I would try to really understand why.

My personal experience says: don't forget to ask if and how exactly anaesthesia is done.


I wouldn't neglect other parts of my life and really understand that it is always a probabilities games.


Probably the best thing you as a friend can do is to help her to keep- up normal. You know .... That she doesn't neglect other parts of her life.
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Old 03-12-2018, 01:35 AM   #1905
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Thanks for your post. I think it can all be a bit overwhelming tbh. I totally agree regarding the pity and she hasn't even gone public in regards to it and I think the main reason is not wanting to be pitied. I appreciate your willingness to be so open about it.
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Old 03-12-2018, 07:31 AM   #1906
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Why do you care what mbabs thinks?

All joking aside, she is literally delusional, with impaired cognitive processes. Why does what she says impact you any more than what some accidentally released untreated mental patient ranting in the street says?

Her behavior and everything she says is calculated to maximize attention for use as a mental salve to deal with the crippling insecurity that comes mostly from her clinical narcissism.

Why let her get to you?
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Old 03-12-2018, 08:09 AM   #1907
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Short answer: if i am seriously challenged by someone who is obviously an underdog compared to me in a given area, my default is to accept and to establish very firmly who is the underdog.

Long answer: I don't care what she thinks. But she challenges me a lot. My default behaviour in rl with someone like her would be either to accept every challenge until she realizes that it is not a good idea to try to poke me or in case of completely out of whack to ensure that our paths don't cross any more.

I adopted here to big extend second approach. Sadly sometimes we end-up in the same thread. You have no idea how much effort was for me yesterday to just disappear for few hours from the thread instead of going for her. In aftermath I am glad I did disappear, because I think it went direction completely mental.

It is like I said somewhere: any interaction with her leaves bad aftertaste, exactly the way any unavoidable encounter with untreated and slightly aggressive mental health patient would leave me feeling.
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Old 03-12-2018, 09:48 AM   #1908
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I vow to proof read every post of mine for the next three days. Just reread today's posts and am so unhappy with my English. Half of wrong grammar, weired constructions and wrong spelling was avoidable.
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Old 03-12-2018, 10:16 AM   #1909
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Cliffs on M drama? I follow her log but don't really read any other threads she participates in.
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Old 03-12-2018, 10:37 AM   #1910
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OOT instigator: death fight rexx+lapka against M
M: I don't fight old ladies + some nonsense about brittle bones

It went totally downhill with cat woman, cangoroo and blade hands from then on.

Have a look in bad poster thread if interested.
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Old 03-12-2018, 11:58 AM   #1911
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That sounds like a thread I would not be interested in.

Pretty sure both of you are not old ladies either but I guess that is where the trigger comes in.
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Old 03-12-2018, 03:21 PM   #1912
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I vow to proof read every post of mine for the next three days. Just reread today's posts and am so unhappy with my English. Half of the wrong grammar, weired sentence constructions and wrong spelling was avoidable.
lapka,

I usually don't bother with small stuff like this, but may do more of it for the next three days Your English is totally fine though, as many have said at different points.
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Old 03-12-2018, 04:31 PM   #1913
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I usually don't bother with small stuff like this, but may do more of it for the next three days Your English is totally fine though, as many have said at different points.

That is big deal for me, especially because I understand, that it is zero fun for the corrector. I was just rereading my posts today and saw myself so many things/expressions I could have used better, more grammatically correct, that it was embarrassing. A bunch of things like articles I will probably never do completely right. But I totally can do at least a little bit better.

If you ever need anything with math/physics/russian/german just ask. I would be happy to help.
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Old 03-12-2018, 07:18 PM   #1914
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What do you mean zero fun? Grammar nits love correcting people's grammar on the internet. A "Correct Lapka's English" thread in OOT would be very popular and full of arguments over whose correction of your grammar was more correct.
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Old 03-12-2018, 07:24 PM   #1915
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What do you mean zero fun? Grammar nits love correcting people's grammar on the internet. A "Correct Lapka's English" thread in OOT would be very popular and full of arguments over whose correction of your grammar was more correct.
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Old 03-13-2018, 12:43 AM   #1916
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That sounds like a thread I would not be interested in.

Pretty sure both of you are not old ladies either but I guess that is where the trigger comes in.
It would have been fun, but Lapka didn't play along.
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Old 03-13-2018, 12:49 AM   #1917
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Short answer: if i am seriously challenged by someone who is obviously an underdog compared to me in a given area, my default is to accept and to establish very firmly who is the underdog.

Long answer: I don't care what she thinks. But she challenges me a lot. My default behaviour in rl with someone like her would be either to accept every challenge until she realizes that it is not a good idea to try to poke me or in case of completely out of whack to ensure that our paths don't cross any more.

I adopted here to big extend second approach. Sadly sometimes we end-up in the same thread. You have no idea how much effort was for me yesterday to just disappear for few hours from the thread instead of going for her. In aftermath I am glad I did disappear, because I think it went direction completely mental.

It is like I said somewhere: any interaction with her leaves bad aftertaste, exactly the way any unavoidable encounter with untreated and slightly aggressive mental health patient would leave me feeling.
Lapka,

Seriously, you should really step back and evaluate if someone is actually challenging you or not IRL.

For example: The instance with the flow meter problem where you offered help and I accepted the help and was thankful, you later talked about how I was challenging you and was upset about it.

And, you say I constantly challenge you. Despite posters in your blog not liking me, Im sure others will agree that Im not challenging you and for some reason you are perceiving it that way.

The fight scenario was meant to be fun with a little trash talking and you got so defensive/felt challenged/whatever that was.
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Old 03-13-2018, 03:00 AM   #1918
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M, stay out of my blog or I will get help from niss. You are not welcome here.
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Old 03-13-2018, 07:40 AM   #1919
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I like nerds.

Working right now with one. The dude is great. I made a dumb mistake in the input to a calculation. He helped to find It, saw that I blushed and immediately started to tell stories, how often he made the same mistake, just to make me feel better.

I generally have a lot of luck with my colleagues. They are very often of this type. And it just works well.
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Old 03-13-2018, 11:16 AM   #1920
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Cliffs on M drama? I follow her log but don't really read any other threads she participates in.

The latest drama bomb started when MLYLT said that she was “looking sexy” at 5’8”, 220. Which is something like 160cm, 100 kilos. I said that’s a build more suited to an NFL linebacker.

She suggested in response that my mockery of her meant that my two daughters were headed for careers on stripper poles. I replied that either of my daughters at ten could write more logical and artful posts than M can now.

M said she could beat up Rexx and lapka, which, given my observation above, is probably true.

DZ weighed in with some solid GIFs.

Fabian and GM and Yak expressed their Euro insecurity by claiming to have large phalluses.
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Old 03-13-2018, 11:19 AM   #1921
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What do you mean zero fun? Grammar nits love correcting people's grammar on the internet. A "Correct Lapka's English" thread in OOT would be very popular and full of arguments over whose correction of your grammar was more correct.

I suspect that Greg and I will enjoy competing with one another on this point. Greg is a silly man but is nonetheless very bright and disciplined and articulate.
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Old 03-13-2018, 11:58 AM   #1922
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Howard,

You seem to be misunderstanding what the point of lapka's blog is. Leave the low content garbage in threads appropriate for it, like the OOT LC thread or bad poster thread. At the very least, it's up to lapka to drag the garbage in here if she wants to. This isn't a low content garbage troll thread.
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Old 03-13-2018, 04:40 PM   #1923
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lapka,

fwiw my gf and I met about a year ago, we are in our 50's (so, significantly older than you ), and for us both it's the best relationship we've ever had.

For largely the same reasons you mentioned about getting more 'seasoned'. We know ourselves better, we've made the rookie mistakes, we won't settle.

Just stuff like "Ow, my shoulder" etc. is the only issue
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Old 03-13-2018, 04:49 PM   #1924
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Howard,

You seem to be misunderstanding what the point of lapka's blog is. Leave the low content garbage in threads appropriate for it, like the OOT LC thread or bad poster thread. At the very least, it's up to lapka to drag the garbage in here if she wants to. This isn't a low content garbage troll thread.


I will generally not litter lapka’s thread with junk, and will strictly and genuinely follow any guidance she gives me with respect to how I should post in it. In the meantime, I was simply answering Yugo’s request for cliffs.
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Old 03-13-2018, 11:51 PM   #1925
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More on age. You will have to do with my bad translation since it is in Russian. And "no" I can't dance not even half as good as the woman here, especially not Tango.


We are 50 today, but it is not the evening
and years go by so fast and candles are burning
We are only 50 and it is not the evening
The candle burns, the wax is dropping
Live put silver on our temples
The candle burns, the wax is dropping
Live put silver on our temples

The live is not over,
The live is starting again
Only the youth is gone and the wisdom came
The youth is gone and wisdom came
But the live is not over
The live is starting again

And years are running so fast
And candles are burning to the end
We are only 50
It is not an evening
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