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Old 03-22-2016, 07:12 PM   #551
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Re: Cause and effect

I just can't imagine wanting someone else's leftovers.
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Old 03-22-2016, 07:43 PM   #552
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I just can't imagine wanting someone else's leftovers.
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I would happily take fruits, vegies, chocolate. An I am pretty sure that I will use it for my apple supply. On the other side I have often cheese and bread that I can't finish on my own. One basket near my place contains organic wine, chocolate, crackers. I mean why should perfectly good food be thrown away.

If I think about my phd party..... There was a big case with bier leftover. I don't drink bier and neither my parents. We ended up opening the bottles and pouring it into the toilet. I think it is very wastefull
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Old 03-23-2016, 02:13 PM   #553
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Doing first time in my life a written budget. Am using this page www.everydollar.com. Below is about what it looks like for me this month. just noticed that I labeled first line of my income wrong. 2700 is my take home salary. All income taxes, my health insurance and my social security insurance are already taken out of it. That is the reason why this categories have nothing in my case. Now I have still to enter which transactions I already have made. I don't have any debt, so that category has also nothing. +20 euros a month is what I have averaged in last two years of poker. So that is also on the income side.

i am not sure if I will continue with this written budget thing. It can be that a hassle factor is just to big for me. But I am gonna give it a try.

I would like to have a house with a big piece of land around it. House can be small and crappy . I am totally able as a handy man. And I want to have enough money to be able to live of it without much thinking. My life style is rather not so extravagant exept my medical bills. And I have some money in savings. So I think that is totally doable.
Anyway..... For now the question is if I can keep-up this written budget. May be it will allow me to trim one or other thing.

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Old 03-23-2016, 04:30 PM   #554
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about quitting the rat race

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Zz-dxV8VfPE

The guy introduces some ways how to quit a rat race. Common features in all ways:
- willingness to live unconventionally
- cost control/frugality
- cultivating your networks
- finding some purpose in live beyond your current job
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Old 03-24-2016, 07:22 PM   #555
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Somehow everything good......Seldom state. No problems, happy with myself, didn't procrastinate with anything, didn't binge, didn't fast, sensible work-out, picked-up clean apartment, mold removed, cause of the mold fixed, started with IVF shots for next try ( but somehow not on such emotional rollercoaster like last time). Really seldom state. Everything is good.
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Old 03-25-2016, 08:32 AM   #556
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I have conflicting impulses in connection with my job.

There is a part that I like, I can even say love, namely the actual job: solving problems, calculating things, dimensioning, modelling.....There is a part I don't like, but I recognize that it is good for me: structure, being forced to communicate. And there is a part that I hate and it is pure stress with nothing good for me: being forced to deal with dumb things, that I can't change. I am still surprised again and again, how many decisions in an engineering company are based not on logic and science but purely on the ego, after more than 9 years on the job.

This conflicting conflicting impulses make it difficult for me to decide, if I want to quit or not. I am going again and again over my finances, if it is at all doable or not. With finances it is also somehow not clear answer.

I have to put some more work in it.
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Old 03-25-2016, 10:19 AM   #557
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Gogogo! Great work on your part lately. I've been following along, but have been ill, and can't seem to string two sentences together in any way that makes sense.

That ego problem you are discussing is familiar, and enough to make you run for the hills. It's frustrating when you have a logical, workable solution to something, only to be ignored by someone who "knows better". Trying to advance a solution with people who are like this is like walking through mud with snowshoes on. Nothing worse than having your ideas talked over.

I really think that, at this time, you should stay where you are, at least while the IVF is still on the table. Too many outside stressors at this time will not have a positive effect on the outcome.

Looking at your finances, you have plenty of time to decide your future employment plans. I'd wait.
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Old 03-26-2016, 03:14 AM   #558
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Gogogo! Great work on your part lately. I've been following along, but have been ill, and can't seem to string two sentences together in any way that makes sense.
Get well soon!
I do get that it is internet and so... But the thought that something may happen to you, and I won't even know, makes me sad. You have helped me immensely.
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Old 03-26-2016, 12:43 PM   #559
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And you have helped me. Although I do admit that I have times when I envy your courage. I don't believe that you can see it yet, but you are really a badass!

Courage doesn't mean fearless. It means plowing through your fears. You've pretty much got this mastered.
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Old 03-26-2016, 08:36 PM   #560
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Sitting in the train, that just rolled over a suicidal guy. It is not cool. It is so not cool. I don't know if he is dead or not. Ambulance came, crisis manager came, we have to stay in the train. I can see blood, but have no idea how bad it is with the guy.

I am sooooooooo happy that I am alive.

Firemen came. They help to get him/ his body from underneath the train. It is bad if it is an end, it is not good if he is alive. I don't want to have such an end.
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Old 03-28-2016, 10:34 PM   #561
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Topic for the next therapy session:

Actors: me and my mom

me: bla bla bla. And then i went there, did that, experienced that.
my mom: it is completely your fault. I told you XYZ. You never listen to me. You do it extra to annoy me. And why is your hair so terrible?
me: maaaaaaaaaa!
my mom: What "maaaaaaaaaaa!"? I tell you that only out of love. Whoelse will ever tell you that your hair is terrible? There is no one else in this world who cares about you.
me in tears: maaaaaaaaa! Say something nice about me.
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It hasn't been a single visit to her without a conversation like this one for years. And it just doesn't work. I want to break this skript. It is of zero use to get logical and explain to her, that there are people in this world, who do care about me. And it makes me feel worst things that I know: worthless and at the same time really deeply aggressive. And it is so laughable, if you consider how old I am.
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Old 03-29-2016, 01:24 PM   #562
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Next time you see mom, ask her to treat you like a client instead of a daughter. Would she tell a client that everything is her fault and she has terrible hair? Of course not.

I have been guilty of some of these same things, and realized through our conversations how hurtful I have been. I think I'm being helpful, but there are ways to get a point across that are much more positive.

Your mom could learn a lesson if she's receptive.
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Old 03-30-2016, 06:24 AM   #563
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Writing things down definitely has some kind of magic in it.

Was flipping out about a ton of medical bills that are coming this month to me. But then did my april budget and somehow got more relaxed. It hasn't given me more money. I knew also before that I can pay them and from where the money is coming. But I was still flipping out. And writing it down somehow calmed me down.

I think that just keeping stuff that has to be done in my brain gives it the opportunity to build some bad scenarios, to worry. And writing down takes things out of the brain.

I noticed it also with feelings. I can feel really really bad in so many different ways. Naming in which way exactly and writing it down always takes the edge out of it.
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Old 03-31-2016, 02:26 AM   #564
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today's biggest frog is working-out. I just feel it how I am gonna to root to my couch an not move my ass today. Have a week easter holidays, so don't have even to move my body to work. So I am gonna to do it now! Before breakfast. I just know all my feelings, if I work-out and if I don't, so well, that it is better for how I feel, to work-out. I am gonna to run my standard running track. It is pretty exactly 5 km and afterwards do some yoga. Alltogether it should be 60 min and keep me in good mood for the rest of the day.
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Old 04-01-2016, 07:29 AM   #565
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I had a surprisingly good day yesterday. In the morning it looked like I am gonna to stay glued to the internet the whole day. That was not good feeling. But then I worked out. And it got better....

I have done a ton for one of my projects, namely redo my apartment more feng-shui like. I got a feng-shui book as a present. And a lot there is clearly esoteric junk, but a lot also makes totally sense. For example the biggest thing for any feng-shui redo is decluttering and cleaning. And I do desperately need some decluttering. I have a ton of clothing and books, that I neither like no need. Many of them are gifts from exes. So it is not only physical, but also emotional clutter. And so I decided to go to the next flee-market (It is something like a yard sale, only with many sellers. I am not sure if that is the right term, but google translated it this way.). Whatever I won't sale, I am gonna donate and throw away. This requires a ton of preparational work from my side.

-I have to buy a sellers ticket for a place there. Such flee markets are organized by the city and I can't buy a ticket online, but have to go to a city administration and buy a ticket there.
-I have to think about how I am going to transport all my junk there. That is a problem since I don't have a car.
-I have to organize a clothing rack and some kind of table, so that I can display my stuff in a best way.
-I have to go through my clutter and actually prepare it for selling. With clothing it means some cleaning and ironing. With books it is easier.

I bought a used clothing rack yesterday. It is in the picture. Cost point: 5 €.
It is foldable to really small size and very light. So it is perfect for me.

And the process of buying it totally made my day yesterday. The place where I had to pick it up is pretty far. I had to go by public transport and then pretty far just walk. It was raining and on top I got lost. Then I asked my way. The woman whom I asked was incredibly nice and friendly. She explained me very explicitly the way and on top just gave me her umbrella. It gave me such a warm feeling of being accepted and being able to count on people around me. And i have to say that generally people are always nicer to me than I expect them to be. Today I gave the umbrella back with some chocolate and a thank you card. That resulted in an invitation this sunday for breakfast. May be a new friend.

The interaction with this woman and a ton of walking (about 2 hours) made me feel really good.
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Old 04-01-2016, 08:30 AM   #566
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Re: Cause and effect

The term is flea market (with an a).
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Old 04-01-2016, 10:10 AM   #567
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The term is flea market (with an a).
tx really appreciate it. I am afraid my english instead of getting better deteriorates.
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Old 04-01-2016, 01:47 PM   #568
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I like the sentiment of flee market, though.
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Old 04-01-2016, 02:23 PM   #569
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I like the sentiment of flee market, though.
^^ freudian slip
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Old 04-01-2016, 07:35 PM   #570
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I wonder with many many things, how did the people live without in the past: Internet, dishwasher ..... and especially vacuum cleaner. How did women deal with spiders without a vacuum cleaner?!
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Old 04-01-2016, 07:52 PM   #571
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I've lived half my life without the internet and didn't have a dishwasher until last year. What do you want to know?
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Old 04-01-2016, 08:53 PM   #572
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I wonder with many many things, how did the people live without in the past: Internet, dishwasher ..... and especially vacuum cleaner. How did women deal with spiders without a vacuum cleaner?!
Lemme see. No internet. No cable. No cell phones. No dishwasher. Had to defrost the refrigerator all the time. No microwave. Always had vacuum cleaners, though.

None of this was an issue, really. We didn't have what we didn't know about.
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Old 04-02-2016, 09:29 AM   #573
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I don't own a cell phone. My dishwasher gave up the ghost before Christmas. I have all hardwood floors in my house, so my vacuum gets used mainly on furniture. I still like my laundry hung outside on good days.

But, I would be totally lost without the internet and my microwave.
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Old 04-02-2016, 10:55 AM   #574
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I am always to late on every new technology train. About two years. But when I get on this trains, I don't want to get down. With internet.... I get totally crabby if it is off for a day. But somehow more than a half of my life I was perfectly fine without, even when everyone around already had it. With dishwasher it is the same. I lived perfectly fine without for many many years, but now.... My life would significantly more stressy, without. And I even remember time, where that

was the cleaning tool for carpets. I was around 10, when my parents bought the first vacuum cleaner.

Basically the only technological thing with which I did step back is a TV. I don't have one and I miss nothing although I was a TV junkie in my early twenties.
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Old 04-02-2016, 06:58 PM   #575
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I don't even understand how that thing could clean carpet. Looks like its made of wicker.
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