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Originally Posted by biggerboat
Mom's behavior is so mindboggling that we keep thinking there is no way she will do something so dumb, but she does.
This is an astute observation, and I think realizing it will help you going forward. It's important to pause and think things over logically when coming across these situations. The thing is, I never catch myself saying, "Nobody could could be so stupid", but I do catch myself thinking, "It's unfortunate that she has to do that." Then I ask myself, Did she
really have to do that?
fwiw, a month ago I bailed on a family situation that was only 1/10 as bad as yours. I took a big hit doing it, but the peace of mind I gained was exhilarating. A rule I implemented that helped a lot was not responding to messages for
at least 48 hours. Craziness is contagious, and putting all the drama on mandatory hold keeps me out of it.