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Originally Posted by goofyballer
wil, can you go into detail on...
- what are the stats pre and post welfare, like, what are the years/numbers/etc
- if there's stronger evidence of causation (not just correlation) to support your theory over what well named has posted
My theory is that children REALLY need two parents. Can it be done with one parent? Absolutely, I firmly believe that. Should it be done? No. I never understood this until I had children. It takes two parents. I find it interesting that when I talk to other parents who are in similar situations, we all have the same stories. We play "good cop/bad cop". The fathers are the more stern ones. The mothers are the more easy-going ones. My role is to be the disciplinarian, and I can actually see it in how it impacts the child. They really do change their behavior.
I couldn't imagine how difficult it must be to raise a child with one parent, and I don't see how it can be done effectively (obviously it can be because we see it often). It must be utterly exhausting.
I think men need their fathers. The crime rate only impacts black males, not black females. So what is happening here? I'm interested in knowing what happens to females raised without mothers to see if there are detrimental impacts on the females if we reverse the situation. I would suspect we would see some issues.
I now understand why conservatives were so apprehensive about gay marriage and about gay people being able to adopt/raise children. They were scared of what the results may be. To be clear, I support gay marriage. Always have. But I get why other people were concerned when it came to the kids.
I am unsure if most of the problems stem from the financial impact (two people financially is obviously better than one), or from the lack of an actual father. I would suspect a bit of both. Also, what happens in a gay family where the child has two mothers or two fathers? A male child with two mothers still lacks a father, so are their statistics as bad as a single mother household?
I've looked up some of the studies and it seems the sampling is in question. I'm also sure that the bias is towards showing statistics that only support gay marriage. If anyone has some studies we can look at, please feel free to post them.
Again, I'm very open to the idea I could be totally wrong about this, but as I get older it really seems to point in the direction of single motherhood being a root cause.