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Originally Posted by candybar
I'm getting off-topic but why do you say that? Obviously we're in NYC and not moving but Bay Area and LA would both rank relatively high on our list if we were to contemplate moving. As would Boston and Seattle.
If you think my last one was harsh...
Okay, some parts of LA aren't like this, but...
Everyone is staring at their phones all day and no one talks to each other. If you go to a restaurant, it is solid crickets and everyone blinding themselves with pixels. You go to a concert, phones raised up, no one talking or really having fun. LA was definitely different 10 years ago, but it changed for the the worst. Don't even get me started on Holllywood. The image conscience is over the top. Downtown would be a terrible place to raise a child, of course, but at least people are normal, and it isn't unseemly to go to a $250 per plate restaurant wearing a t-shirts and jeans.
People complain about not being able to get a date or a girlfriend. There was an article a few years back, in the local rag, about sex and how hard it is to get going with it. Some girl was complaining that she didn't have sex for over 5 years. Another guy, 8 years. She is a very good looking woman, by the way.
If I'm walking down the street and a woman is walking toward me, she will cross the street to be sure we aren't on the same sidewalk. I'm a white guy, rail thin, and mostly harmless.
Finally, especially in the "industry," there is a ton of con artists and scammers. I met people from New York who found the people outright appalling at how sophisticated and good they are.
The fact is, people are highly disconnected from each other, and it is very hard to get around and very difficult to talk to anyone. There are some exceptions to this rule, but you really have to dig, or just stay in downtown, the Arts District, or Pasadena. Be ready to move once the idiots move next door.
I wouldn't want my kids growing up thinking that people are scary.
SF is a whole never level of don't talk to me. If you go to a coffee shop, or you are walking down the street, people will actually snap their head away from you if you attempt to talk to them or make eye contact. This is horrible.
But what I find interesting about SF is that, once you break through, you can't get anyone to shut up. These people are just
desparate to talk to anyone at all, and they are so
needy to talk to anyone who isn't an aloof *******.
When I think of SF, I think of one particular interaction I had. Unfortunately, I had a concert to attend and was leaving the next day.
I walked into a coffee shop in the Mission District. For context, the coffee shop was dead silent, despite being SRO. Everyone one on their iPads and Macs. I simply said "good afternoon" to the girl working the counter, and she was taken aback. She saw that I asked because I meant to. I gave a small smile and she just poured out to me, right there. Despite having a line behind me, she was going on about her week, her weekend, just chatting me up as if no one else was in the world. I didn't really say much back to her, but you could just tell how incredibly shocked she was that
someone actually spoke to her. Believe it or not, this girl was absolutely gorgeous and there is no doubt, if I had a couple more days, I'd have asked for her number. And this sort of thing happened multiple times. How can there be
any single and desperate woman in a town that is 4 women to each 6 men?
I'm only using this one example, but this situation was far from unique. I'm hardly an extrovert and this situation included both men and women.
Compare this to Austin. If you go to a bar, no one is looking at their phones. People are talking to each other, and if you strike up a random conversation (or someone strikes one with you), you
talk to each other.
One day, I was chatting up some dude for abut 10 minutes in front of a bar, and we started joking about Austin. At first, you are like "why the **** are you talking to me... hey wait... this is how life is supposed to be."
One of my friends came and visited me during Christmas and he just shocked at how friendly everyone was. His review: "Is this Pleasant Town? Everyone is so damn friendly and approachable... What is going on?" (Then we went to South Lamar and he had to adjust his thinking a bit)
So, sure. Raise a kid and buy him a skateboard. In LA and SF, he'll take it to the skate part and stare at his phone and not make any friends and be a 40y.o. virgin. You just bought him $150 seat with wheels and terrible ergonomics.
With all that said, you can see now why I'm so appalled at any rudeness I see here in Austin. It just ain't right. The friendliness and slower pace is quite disconcerting at first, but if I was to chose to raise a kid (never going to happen, but that's another topic), I'd chose any place but California any day of the week. I'm not one to judge what is "normal," but I would want my kid to have the perspective to know what LA and SF are like if he or she ever decided to go there. Of course, things may well be much different in another 15 years, but the paranoia, the overkill child-coddling, the image-over-substance culture, and stupid slew of laws in California is a perfect representative of the insanity well the state has become.
Finally, with the state being more and more expensive, how old would your kid have to be before he or she can get their own place? What 21 year old can afford to pay $3k / month on rent?