degens going to degen, you're the silly 1 tho.

This guy is not a poker player with a plan. He sounds like a losing player. He sounds abusive. Please seek counseling for yourself in some way to help process through all of this. I wish you all the best.

OP is actually dating Chino Rheem.

Actually the BF is a long-time 2+2er:
Beat: Busto and my Girl Wont Stake Me

Better cut your losses and dump this guy. 2 yrs down the road that 10k will be 20k, 5 yrs down the road he ships something and will have won enough to pay u back but what will actually happen is that he will give u 5k and use the rest of his winnings to "move up and make some real monies". He will go Busto, u will loan him 5k, rinse and repeat. Dump him and invest in stock for better return.

As a poker player who did it as his sole source of income for a number of years I can tell you that your boyfriend is not built to play poker, he is a gambling addict. Bankroll management is the most important skill anyone who plays poker as their sole source income can have. If you can't manage your finances, you can't play professionally, and your boyfriend clearly can't manage his finances. You're helping him, and I know you think you're doing good, but you're not. He won't quit playing so long as you keep supporting him, and if he can play he won't feel as driven to try and find or keep a job.

Honestly every objective assessment of your situation leads to the same conclusion, he's using you. Maybe your love and your situation has twisted so far that neither of you can realize it, but that's what's happened. You're not being unreasonable at all, the way you wrote your post speaks towards the way I imagine he treats you. The line "I don't know what I'm doing wrong", along with all your questioning of yourself and placing the blame on yourself indicates that he's convinced you that it's your fault, not his.

Anyway, everyone is right that you should just get out right now. But if you can't, which I suspect, then I suggest you do this. Make him get a job and save up a certain amount of money before he plays poker again. Then he can play poker once he has a bankroll. If he loses the bankroll that is that. He has to show that he can manage his finances and get out of this hole he's dug you both in. Hopes and dreams are great, but I've got a 4k bankroll, a few months living expenses saved up, have played roughly 50 months (say 40 professionally, 10 recreationally) only having 3 minor losing months and I am still not in a position to financially go back to playing poker for a living because it would be irresponsible for me to attempt it. Imagine how ridiculous it is for your boyfriend to be in the hole $10k+ and borrowing money every week while considering himself a professional poker player.

For the record since you probably don't know poker statistics and stuff really well, let me break some things down. You play 30 hands per hour live, so if your BF is playing like 8 hours a week live he's basically straight gambling as the results over 240 hands are meaningless, if you're a winning player you need to put in heavy hours to minimize the effect of variance. Online you get rougly 75 hands an hour per table, playing probably 4 tables at a time on American poker sites that's 300 hands an hour. Any sample size under roughly 50k hands is meaningless, and even 50k hands isn't a lot, that's a small month for most players. Playing tournaments luck is even more devastating, and you need to play >500 tourneys for your sample to be at all significant, and even then a great player will lose roughly 30% of the time. You can read more about that stuff here.

http://www.nsdpoker.com/category/poker-pro/

I hope you end this painful relationship soon, it's a terrible situation you've ended up in.

Sounds like your husband sucks at life and poker tbh. Complete degen. I mean ****, all he would have to do is go on twoplustwo and read some strat for a couple weeks to beat 1/2 and at least not lose all the money you give him. FFS why would you support his gambling habit when he's not even good? Here's what you need to do, you need to go with him whenever he plays. Limit him to only playing 1/2 and limit him to like 3 bi max and when he loses 3 bi every single session he plays he'll realize he's **** and so will you and then you can move on with your lives.

If you opt to stay with this person, cut him off financially entirely, and kick him out if he is unable to hold up his end of the financial obligations. This isn't remotely fair to you, nor are you doing him any favors by enabling him to pursue his dream irresponsibly.

Do NOT let him owe you another dollar. Write everything you have lent him off in your mind, and chalk it up to a lesson learned. This will only get worse. I have played professionally for close to eight years, and this is not how things work. Good luck.

You sound like a nice girl, so here is a piece of advice. Get away from him right away, and don't let him drag you into the mud. Give him an ultimatum. Either he stops gambling, get a job and pay you back, or you leave. If he actually loves you, he will, if he don't, well then you know what to do.
Unfortunately from what I've read, it looks like option two is the one that is going to happen, resulting in you not getting your hard earned money back. I feel for you, but cut the losses while you can still get through it, and definitelly never ever back up someones loan if it is for gambling. Golden rule, never gamble with borrowed money!

Im kind of surprised this thread hasnt been locked yet.. about 60 posts all saying more or less the exact same thing and no sight of OP to comment on the advice given itt

Poker players dont do this. Idiots do and this idiot is the reason we play poker because he is terrible at it.

Your boyfriend has a problem. He is a gambling addict and needs help.

If you were giving him the same amount of money to go towards alcohol or drugs, you would be in the exact same spot you are in.

You are his enabler, and you have only two options at this point:

-Make him get help, have an intervention or something.
-Leave him

If you continue on this path you only have your self to blame for these problems.

OP, you dump this guy yet? Scrolled through thread and no one seems to argue in favor of keeping this guy(lol at him changing, getting a job, paying you back). Quick question? Can you ask him real quick if he grinds $40-$100NL and if he is a short-stacker?

I already locked it once, then re-opened when the duplicate thread was closed in another forum. Have thought about locking again, but since OP is newby wanted to just give her a bit more time to respond...and then yes, will lock again.

I guess there is no reason to post the same exact thing that everyone else did.

But I would like to see OP cut him off for a month and then get an update on their relationship status after she quits feeding his addiction for 30 days.

Do not get pregnant!

OP confirmed back to enabling bf to freeroll her for sex, housing and monies to degen. Gotta dump him.

I feel like this thread has to be a level.

Sounds like a degen. Don't know if there is much hope. Sorry =/
Plus I don't know if all those beats are bad..he doesn't sound like a player that gets very good results