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Originally Posted by Katipo
My new policy became to send back ONLY if that player previously sent me money back for a disconnect. Unsurprisingly, I think this only happened once in my poker career. In that case, I'd feel obligated to restore the balance and would send back as well. Of course, I made exceptions for friends and others I knew well. Overall, I've still lost way more than I ever gained from disconnects.
Even if Z would send back 100%, I feel no obligation to send back when I haven't benefited from his policy. Having such a policy with most regs. is risky and it takes only a few that don't share it to put you at a disadvantage. I'm cynical when it comes to these things. My policy is selfish but protects me completely from anyone who doesn't cooperate because I ONLY cooperate if they first do. Likewise, if they expect me to send back and I don't, they'll never do so again. Over a large sample, there's no difference between the condition of "everyone cooperates" and "no one cooperates."
You may not realise it but you are just reverse freerolling people if you only send back to people who sent back to you. If you think this is the correct view then you should never send back and never accept send backs either. This view is probably only slightly better than accepting send backs but never sending back yourself.
A policy of never sending back more to one person than they have sent you leaves you completely protected but someone who has a two hour talk on the morality of the situation would probably agree that this is not fair either.
Also, from a utilitarian perspective at least, there is a clear difference between everyone cooperating and nobody cooperating. Would you disagree that everyone sending back is a better equilibrium than nobody sending back? I imagine the answer is no.
+1 to stones post as well, it reads like you are trying to justify something you aren't entirely sure of. In a situation where you are the one who benefits when you don't send back then obviously you take this stance when you aren't entirely sure but now have a motive to put yourself on one side of the fence.