Started around 10, but quit playing sophomore year to pursue baseball. Baseball was my sport and something I excelled at doing. Tennis was always there and grew more passion for the sport after an arm injury in college that ended my baseball career.
Once my rag arm was live again, I was too old for a to jump back into baseball so my love for tennis rejuvenated. I was playing 4 or 5 times a week in my late 20s.
From there I just played in a lot of USTA leagues. It fills my competitive desire I crave. I love to compete!

6 hours of tennis lessons today! They’re paying me for this? Teaching juniors my knowledge is fun!

Dear Diary,

The decision to marry or not is causing some serious stress lately. A few months ago I was close as ever to goin for it. Since then, a slow back peddle. Now I’m thinking it prob won’t happen, and if it did, wd I hv these ongoing concerns?

For goodness sakes she is the mother of my 3 kids. These types of decisions impacts life on everyone moving forward. Do I be “ that man” and do something for the sake of others? Will I be hurting the people close to me if not?

This conflict in my mind feels like the pressure point of 2 heads banging. It has been going on for way too long, and I feel I need to take a stance.
This life is so precious to me, I wanna make corrects decisions.

I cd use some guidance. Married people, has life been better post marriage?

Also, Happy Holidays.

If you're living together it's basically exactly the same as before

Having kids is a much bigger life impacting decision than getting married.

Like tswpoker1 said, shouldn't change much after, except maybe the bank account is a little lighter. ☺

You guys live together and have three kids, I'm assuming common law marriage applies in Indiana, so you ever split your screwed. Might as well make it official, I'm sure there's financial benefits to going to courthouse and making it official. Are you on her health insurance, are you getting the tax benefits of essentially being married? If not I'd say do it.

No common law in Indiana

Your asking the wrong questions

What is your Partners position? Pressure from her?

I've been with my wife for 10 years and married for 6 nothing really changed once we got married we already live together the only thing that changed was we had kids which made things harder but made us stronger if you have all of that already you might as well just tie the knot

Married or not, I wd never share bank accounts.

I don’t see much financial benefits. Can u explain?

Not on her insurance. Used to be, but as of a couple years ago her work no longer offered domestic partnerships to b included on her ins.

We split the tax money of our 3 dependents on taxes.

Sara wd like to b married. Constant pressure. She thinks it makes her look bad that we are not married. She is embarrassed by it. She thinks it’s setting a bad example to our kids and most importantly our Lord.

I'm married and don't share bank accounts.

I'm sure someone is more up to speed on taxes but I believe doing taxes jointly would be a tax saving. To be honest being able to get back on her health insurance is enough reason to do it. Your basically assuming you don't need to pay for a big wedding I'd do it. Get the paperwork song at the courthouse, slip the pastor a $20 to say a few words. Order a couple sheet pizzas and invite a few family and friends over.

Given what you have shared there is very little reason not to get married. You are committed to a life with Sara. You are committed to being a parent and a partner. Getting married is the formal promise of the commitments you already have chosen to make. I have been married seven years best choice I ever made.


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Now for mor "important" matters what are your nfl picks so I can root for them?


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Following this marriage chatter closely. Thank u for sharing ur thoughts. I’ll listen as they come in. This wishing washing stuff has to go for me.

Lol. I need a strong rail.

Of the 50 man Pick Em league, over half r poker players. They may or may not follow this thread. In case they do, i can only gv u my picks once they locked.
Took Colts. Getting 13.5
*W 2 teams (5 games back) in second...one has Colts and other has Ravens.

The 2nd game tonight on Eve Eve isn’t locked in yet, so I’ll jump on here at the beginning of game and luk.

Tomo at the start of the 1pm-era, the rest of games lock in. At that time, I’ll luk the rest of my picks.

Gl me.

What makes you not want to get married?

What took so long? I was waiting for this question.

1). Becomes more of a problem/drama if things didn’t work out once married.
2). Because of #1, more to lose than gain. Perhaps???
3). Don’t see a reason outside of pleasing her...which may b gd enough??
4). If it isn’t broke, don’t fix it kind of thing
5). Most certainly can’t, but still often ask myself if I cd do better. Hate to say that, but it wdnt b #fulltransparency thread if not.
But, is it even worth “doing better” if it meant not being the true traditional family of 5.
6). Am I better on my own?

These r some reasons that come to mind.

Eve eve Night Game

Still got that 5 game lead on Team X, and 6 game lead on Team Y.

This game (Minn vs Green Bay) matters!!!

I got GB and getting 1.5pts.
Team X, in 2nd place, has Minnesota.
Team Y, in 3rd place, has GB (same/indifferent).

This game will result in going up by 6, or 4. Go Packers!

C’mon $2k! Daddy needs to double the roll! It wd b huge!! 4$k+ roll is all we need to get things goin. we won’t be looking back

Wasn't talking about a shared account, more about the cost of the marriage, thus the lighter account.

We split everything down the middle now.
Only thing I can think of where it wd b lighter is my health insurance. Am I missing anything else? Perhaps filing taxes jointly wd b “lighter”. Since poker is my only income now, filing jointly may help. ???

Have you guys ever sat down and talked about it?

When you say you can do better? What specifically? Better looking? Better Educated? Better Employed? Better Mother?

Ohhh boy... long time lurker here and will post now instead of in an upswing type which sounds easier to come in, just stop by to tell you you are not alone and maybe a lot of people have been/are there, the answer idk ofc haven't figured it out, but my 2c's would be not to rush it or do it because you feel under pressure, it will prob come back to you in your mind everytime there's some sort of conflict in the future... the "what if" is awful, and time goes by aswell so the "settling" aspect becomes more and more a reality perhaps...
I don't know, speaking of it sounds easy, pulling the trigger one way or another and dealing with it is the hard part I imagine.
Gl with everything, will be rooting for you.

It’s an ongoing talk.

I don’t wanna get people too hung up on the “can do better” part. Of course, wonder if I cd trade up, but Sara holds the bar high. I feel its just a “is the grass greener” mindset that I hv. Always thinking I can do better in this and that. Always more. Always striving for perfection. All faults of mine.
Sara is a great gal.

Thanks for posting.
I wd think I’m not alone.
When I say, I lose sleep thinking this could be my biggest regret of my life. That goes both ways. I cd regret either decision I make. Therefore, I just drift along not ever making the decision.
Appreciate ur 2c.

Brutal. I'm a green bay fan and I could hardly watch, had all of the fixings to be ugly. There was some glimmer of hope in there but that INT in the 2nd quarter really turned the game.

Man I felt bad for that kid Brett, couldn't catch a break.

My advice is, you don't want to marry someone, don't have like 3 kids by them. I'd be pretty pissed if I had a child with a woman and she was like 'yeah I'm not really sure about you yet hon.'

U already have it mostly worked out. There is only pretty much 1 reason 》》》》》Cuz she wants to.

Sounds like you have taken a look at Marriage and see it for what it is.
Sounds like She has a belief system in place that includes marriage.

In my context Marriage represents a false belief system. It fails to provide the "security" touted and has become an economy unto itself, with a 50% failure rate providing evidence for the former and back end fuel plus recycling for the latter.

Be aware that her belief system mostly likely includes a belief structure of what a husband is. You may or may not fit into that cut out. You'll Still just be Rayz after you sign, but maybe not to her. You may want to take a peek there if your considering.

Could you do better? Realistically: Possibly, but from what you've posted not by much and it would be significantly -EV to attempt for the sake of doing better married or not.
But I understand why your thinking it, belief systems can create disconnects.

Could your current relationship be better? Is that possible? How does that look, work, and come to fruition?

#TheGrassIsNotGreener

(Disclaimer: there is nothing wrong with Marriage.)