So I mentioned I'm working more on mental game right now. A couple weeks ago I asked Ben Raven about how you can distance yourself to the swings and keep your focus on things you have control over. His answer to this was one of the more interesting things I've heard on the matter. So he basically says we should be curious and more attached to variance and emotions, not the other way around, and wallow in the
felt sense to get to know our emotions and sensations better. So instead of taking distance, we should accept and face our feelings and sensations head on! Here is the response from his thread:
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Originally Posted by BenaBadBeat
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And in answer to your question, I could write reams and reams on this but I'll keep it as brief as possible. Paradoxically, i think you need to become more attached to variance but not in the way you may assume. I would change the words 'more attached' to 'more curious' as a starting point. Only by wallowing in the felt sense and taking the time to reflect on what is truly being activated within our emotional experience, can we begin to unpick and 'detach' ourselves from that way of being. Now you may well say that whenever you feel tilt you are wallowing in it. This is true, but seldom does one use that feeling as an object for reflection. They're far more likely to react to it or do something to dissipate the feeling as quickly as possible.
This is possible to do on your own through journaling and other meditative exercises but i would say that the best way of unearthing/processing these feelings is with a trained professional (this isn't a plug btw haha) who has the skill to see your blindspots and collaborate with you.
Please do feel free to PM me or whatever - i love this stuff more than anything.
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Ben was kind enough to open his PM's and I came to the conclusion that I should do mental game journaling, as a start. So right now I write down what I feel before, during and after my sessions and try to rationalize around those feelings after the sessions. Obviously this is very hard, and often times you can't rationalize around every feeling or sensation, but it's a good start. If I continue this long enough I will have a better and more "objective" view over what's happening in my head in poker and around poker. I've found it very helpful so far even if I haven't logged very much yet. It's much easier to go into the next session having a grasp of why my mental game was what it was in earlier sessions, and adjust a couple things based on that.
I've been talking with some poker friends about the topic of having good routines. For me good routines are vital to be happy in general and focused in poker. Poker hits you with an incredible amount of variance, and if you're unorganized and unprofessional in your approach everything falls apart when you face this aspect of poker that is inevitable. In poker we lose all pots in full when we lose, but only win a part of most pots when we win because of rake. It's very easy to start losing a lot when we start approaching our C-game and worse. The edges in poker are small in general, so we need to do everything we can to play our best, at all times. No wonder many pros invest in mental game coaches.
I struggle with low self-esteem at times and poker triggers feelings related to that very often. Poker is very good training for me because I will feel those emotions more often than I would normally, so I get to "wallow in the felt sense" more than enough to get myself to work hard on becoming better at handling and understanding my emotions.
Big thanks to Ben for opening my eyes. Not sure if I interpreted everything Ben told me correctly, but from how I understood it, it has been helpful so far and I feel optimistic about how I'm approaching my mental game going forward.