Lol secrecy? I thought I was being open. In fact, probably too open seeing as I should not have ever mentioned the fact that I would be crashing on a friend's couch. Btw he is one of my closest online friends.
umm but in terms of uni.. I'm just not into all the "things" that make uni enjoyable for most people. For example: I don't feel the need to drink to have a good time and people constantly pressure you to do so. And they constantly pressure you to go out because they are not creative enough to have fun another way. Don't get me wrong, I really enjoy dancing and having a good time. I just don't enjoy doing that stuff in a overcrowded bar where old dudes try to hit on you. And I might go back to school eventually... I'm not completely cutting the idea out. Im just putting it on hold for now till I feel more clarity towards it.

Idk.. what are the things that are supposed to make uni fun and enjoyable?

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My dad actually cried when I told him about going for the full time grind, I giggled when I read that part of your OP.

I felt the same way you do, even though my parents are rather open minded. Also had that fear of "coming out" and postponed it for almost a year. Eventually I had to do it and it was an amazing feeling. The only thing I regret is not telling them sooner and letting the fear of dissapointing people I care about holding me back.

If you want my advice: don't set a deadline for telling them. You'll end up postponing it forever. Tell them over breakfast, before they get distracted by their daily routine. Do it just like you would rip off a bandaid. They won't approve of it and you will fight about it, but that's inevitable. You're an adult and they will have to deal with you taking control of your own life.

Best of luck!

I took your advice and told my parents last night. Pretty much went as I expected. Dad teared up and mom lectured me for an hour. Lol Some of the **** she said was gold. Things like "this is a pyramid scheme" to "Your little sisters no longer the f*** up". To be fair she also made a few good points which I will take into account moving forward.

Thanks for the all the advice and encouragement from everyone!

Next official update will be at the end of March! GLGL

I bet you feel better now getting that off your chest.

both are correct.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Duct_tape

And good job telling your parents, definitely the right thing to do. Good luck with everything!

Interesting thread/journey. GL with the grind, your European trip and learning Spanish (ehhh, am doing the same atm, but in Peru), will be following

Worst part is over imo, just finish up your semester then take the summer to focus on poker and see how it goes. If your dad is more reasonable and tries to talk to you about it, maybe pitch it to him as you're taking a gap year/year off or whatever, you'll be working/traveling (which is true), sounds less degen. Then if it goes really well ofc just make the full time transition


gl

(and get rdy to offer up that butt)

Carmen, I do have a suggestion about your 3bet sizing OOP : in your J10 and QJ 3bet from the SB, you elected to make it 12bbs after a 2.5bbs open and a call. It seem pretty small to me from OOP and playing this deep (both times > 200bbs effective). You are basically inviting so many calls from speculative hands IP when playing this deep, so I would suggest to make it 15bbs+ (even at 100bbs effective, I still make it 15bbs to counter the positional disadvantage/increase fold equity. I play 200-400 NL, if that makes a difference...). Also, I like (and oftentimes prefer) both hands as a call from the SB (they play extremely well multi-way and do not require to narrow down the ranges or do better HU, as does AQ, for example).

GL with your parents, this summer in Europe and eventually moving up

edit : also, as far as learning tools goes, I cannot fathom to understand the dynamics of 10NL (I started at 50NL a few years back when transitioning from live), but I would recommend RunItOnce videos which will use both exploitative and GTO plays, as oppose to Snowie that uses strictly GTO. RIO has also solid videos using PioSolver (which I also prefer to Snowie, but not sure if you want to invest in that software just yet...). Anyhow, just my 2 cents. GL

In some ways yes

GL to you!!

I appreciate and agree with your feedback on the hands. I usually make it 4x+nx from OOP (n being the number of callers other than original raiser). so it should have been a minimum of 12.5bb in the first place. I still think i prefer what you said.. especially when effective stacks are a bit deeper.

That about sums up where my head is at.

good luck look forward to updates

Good Luck to you, attempting similar tomorrow myself gonna try grind 10nl tomorrow ha got 25buyins to try give it a proper bash lol.

Awesome gl to you!!

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Congrats on officially entering adulthood, great job telling your parents. Good luck going forward. Just work as hard as you possibly can and don't give the doubt in your mind a foothold. gl, will be following along

Lol really though. I finally feel like I'm going to get some much needed space from them. Im itching to get started on the grind everyday. Just biting my nails until school is out.

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Which site(s) do you play on Carmen?

Primarily Pokerstars and I suspect that's where I'll be for a long while.

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Really enjoying the thread. I can definitely relate to all of the school/parent stuff you’ve had going on. I got a degree in creative writing, so at least you are doing something that can get you a job lol

Congrats on telling you’re parents as well. Probably the hardest thing for me to do on my journey as well, but something that just had to be done. Obviously acceptance from them might come a lot later, especially since your parents sound tough. Just try your best and do everything you can to be a great poker player and hopefully the results (and your parents) will come around. Sometimes we just need to take our shots haha

gl on the journey!

Thank you thank you. And yeah just gotta get some receipts and hopefully they will turn around. I've heard of similar situations where receipts changed parents perspective. I'm not sure how my parents will feel but that's why I'm sharing everything here. I hope that eventually people will benefit from my story.

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The best advice I can give you is: Play regular tables on smaller sites that have softer field (888 poker, MPN, WPN), try moving to some countries in Southeast Asia or Latin America (I'm serious, the cost of living in these places it can be very low, a grinder nl10-nl25 can already live in Brazil - and it looks like the cost of living here is not the lowest) and sign a CFP contract. By doing these three things, you will become independent and no longer need the approval of your parents. gl gl

Your mom sounds like a bit of a *****.

At least you'll be motivated to succeed because the last thing you'll want is 3 years from now having to admit to your parents that poker didn't work out.

Here's some advice from a 43 y/ parent: don't sell it as quitting school to become a professional poker player. The reality is 95% of people who do that likely fail. What you tell your parents is that you hate what you're studying and you feel lost so you need to take some time to figure out where you want to go with your life. Instead of travelling or working at Starbucks you're going to give poker a try because you love it and want to see how good you can be. If you do well, great; if not, you'll eventually figure out what your passion is.

The world is different now than when your parents were young. The days of finishing university/college and getting a job you'll have for the rest of your life are long gone. Life is a journey and some people will go through different stages and careers over that journey. Others will find a passion but it might take them longer to find it.

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thats not nice

Doesn't make it untrue.

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As a rule I never insult another person's parents, children, or other relatives. It's just not a nice thing to say, completely unnecessary.

Telling a ******ed person they are ******ed is also true. You don't need to say things that aren't nice and are unproductive in saying it. I'm sure OP doesn't appreciate you saying you think her mom sounds like a b****. She sounds like a mom to me.

Obviously "you're little sister isn't the eff up anymore" is a messed up thing to say and hopefully she will apologize for it eventually. (Even if it is true =P). Just keep a cool head and good luck.

Coming to the defense of your forum girlfriend, I like it

I didn't say she is a *****, I said she sounds like one. The evidence provided in this thread is pretty compelling.

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