My advice for anyone who stumbles upon this thread in the future. Never, ever loan anyone a significant amount of money. I don't care if the person is your closest friend or relative. Don't do it. If they have nothing to eat then help them out, otherwise don't do it. Nothing good comes out of this. I have 10k that has been tied up since the end of September(multiple loans from 1-4k). I have heard that 'it's coming this week' every two weeks since then. I was promised to be fully paid back by Christmas at the latest.

I have nobody to blame but myself for this so I am not looking for sympathy, just trying to help out anyone who may ever be in a similar situation. I messed up bigtime thinking that I could rely on this person to pay me back and take this seriously. A very close relative. It is not being taken seriously at all. It could be many months before I see any of it.

As a result I have been on an extremely tight roll. Poker has become very stressful and day to day swings are often 25%+ of my current net worth(6k). It's not fun anymore. I don't want to just give up 2 years of progress and time investment all because 10k of mine is in someone elses hands. At the same time, it's becoming too frustrating and mentally taxing to deal with this on a day to day basis.

I feel like an idiot for loaning anyone a significant amount of money, let alone a family member, and expecting some respect and honesty in return. The person doesn't have the money to give me, which I understand, but I lent the money under false pretenses. I was PROMISED it all back many months ago when I lent the money. It's not coming any time soon. I feel like I was taken advantage of because I had a lot of money coming in and sitting around and they were aware of this. Any attempt to talk about this with the person results in more issues than just not talking about it. It's just a bad situation that I put myself in. I guess it's a good life lesson and it could have been for a lot more money in the future. It's just so frustrating knowing that I spent 2 years dicking around playing poker, built up a nice bankroll from nothing and poof.

This has really been bothering me a lot lately. Just the fact that I feel so disrespected and taken advantage of by a very close relative. I would never do this to anyone, let alone a family member. It's not right. It doesn't seem to bother them at all. It's not a big deal. I don't get it. I've barely been playing poker because of it and it's at the point where every tiny downswing has me just blowing up because I feel like all of my hard work and progress was swept out from under my feet. Maybe it's a good thing that I get out of poker over this. I don't know. I feel like I could make a lot of money to save up in the near future if I had my bankroll.

/end rant