The Problem
My mental game is currently weak in terms of dealing with negative variance. Many sessions are becoming derailed after taking a bad beat as of late and degenerating into low quality play. The primary reason for this is that I am way too results focused. I want to achieve great results, put up big numbers, and accumulate wealth. However, I am measuring myself by dollar results and not the quality of my play and grinding processes. This funk I am in dates back to mid-March, and here is the backstory.
Nearing the end of March, I was up roughly 30k on the month, which was going to be a personal best for poker profit in a month. I took some shots at some high stakes games, and some runbad combined with some tilt found me losing 25k in a day. Over the following few weeks I spun up another roughly 30k of profit, and once again had a minus 25k day playing games that were really a bit too big, and running poorly then subsequently tilting and making it worse than it needed to be. Any big losing day almost always follows the same pattern for me: start of playing well, take some bad beats, start forcing the action trying to get even, and spiral out of control.
There have been times in my poker career where my mental game was one of my strongest points. My technical game is at an all time high, and I feel very confident about my earning ability, however, I'm shooting myself in the foot far too often lately. I've also twisted my technical game confidence into something negative. When I'm stuck I'm finding ways to rationalize that I can play twice as many hands as my opponents and still beat them. I am fully confident I have a good edge even in high stakes games, however, I am also fully confident that I have been throwing my edge straight in the garbage the last couple months at the first sign of adversity.
I don't think I ever quite recovered fully from that first big losing day. I lost way more than I should have given my personal financial situation. I'm starting to accumulate some wealth and my financial outlook is better than ever, however, I'm still far from wealthy and I need to be patient and let go of dollar goals and trying to race towards certain benchmarks, and instead focus back on the process of doing my best and realizing that in the long run that is what will get me where I want to go (albeit more slowly than I might prefer).
Subconsciously I have been still chasing those losses the last couple months, and although I've been consistently earning, the days where I encounter adversity it bothers me way more than it should because I have a poor perspective. I'm trying to race back towards dollar figures, instead of letting go of results and focusing on doing my best. I've seen this many times with players I've coached who are dealing with a big downswing and/or in a lot of makeup. Despite the fact that I can see clearly what I'm doing, I'm still allowing it to happen and enabling thse poor behaviors and indulging these unhealthy thought processes. Additionally, these emotional swings have affected my personal life in a variety of ways, especially my fitness, as I have a tendency to eat away my troubles at the end of rough days.
It stops today.
I've wanted to PGC about all this for a while now, and have kept putting it off. I think subconsciously I was hoping I would simply bink away the problem and everything would get back on track. Of course on some level I realized life doesn't work like that. Thinking it all through, I think some of this runs a bit deeper. Most of my life I have been overweight and poor. Only in the last few years have I become fit and more financially stable. With my fitness and finances although I have gotten close enough to see the light at the end of the tunnel, on some level perhaps I wasn't personally ready to take the final step to maximize my potential. For example, although I lost 100 pounds, my goal is to reach 10-12% body fat and be truly lean, and each time I've dipped below 16% body fat I've started to backpedal. There may be a similar self sabotage type behavior with regard to my personal finances. I think fully breaking through these hurdles and fully maximizing my self potential isn't something I was quite ready for. Today, however, I feel ready to cut the BS and break through.
Starting tomorrow, I'm going to write post session recaps for both my live and online sessions. My primary goals are:
1) Adherence to a fixed session length. Anytime I sit down to play and decide at the beginning that my goal is to play my best and make my best decisions for X hours, it helps my mindset immensely. When I sit down with the plan to play until "whenever", inevitably "whenever" becomes tied up in results and I become far more prone to forcing the action trying to book a winner, or even at times get weak tight near the end of a session trying to hold on to a profit, etc.
2) Viewing negative variance as a growth opportunity. The fact is that I'm not responding well to bad beats. The next bad beat I take, I need to remember that it is an opportunity to practice shaking it off and staying on track by using the various techniques I've learned along the way (mostly from TMGOP book), and not indulge thoughts of feeling sorry for myself or thinking about how this may set bet certain profit benchmarks.
3) Viewing misplays as a growth opportunity. Similarly, lately when I misplay a hand I am tilting as a result. This is occurring both when I try to avoid a big pot through suboptimal passive lines, or try to force a win through loose/spewy play. Very rarely do I play a pot and encounter a situation I don't have a theoretical idea of what my strategic response should be, and the rare times it comes up I actually find it pretty interesting). However, when I play a hand suboptimally I'm kind of aware I'm doing it in the moment and when it doesn't work out I beat myself up afterwards and feel tilted. It's good that I recognize the issue immediately, however, instead of getting frustrated instead I need to instead examine my mental state and make a note of what led to this misstep, and that process will help me avoid repeating the same mental leak in the future.
4) In addition to my mental game goals, it's very important to never stop working on your technical game. I am starting a new project to improve my HUNL game with skraper, as we are going to meet weekly to work through the Doug Polk Advanced HU Mastery course. Although I'm busy and have a lot going on, I want to make this a priority and not get lazy with regards to continually improving my technical game.
Writing all this out has been very cathartic.
The best is yet to come. Let's go!
Last edited by benjamin barker; 05-10-2017 at 10:13 PM.