If someone you didn't know well said this to you, what would be your thoughts?

You're 26 and married while living at home. You don't have any life skills and aren't winning at poker. This might be rock bottom for you. The good news is that you still have a ton of time to get it together. People have given you a lot of good advice. Just realize you aren't a professional poker player and move on.

This situation is very simple, really. His parents need to throw his ass out and lock the door. That’s it.

His parents are enabling his poker habit/gambling addiction by providing a roof over his head and electricity, water, etc. without OP having to do what 90% of the rest of the world has to do: get a ****ing job that they might not enjoy in order to gain the skills, motivation, money, etc. to actually get that desired future job they might actually want.

The problem for OP is that being out of your comfort zone and having to grind like a real, responsible adult sucks for awhile, but in the end you’ll actually get life satisfaction from having achieved something besides being a “poker pro” (the loosest definition of the term).

But stop ****ing feeling sorry for yourself man, you’re young and you have tons of time to show up for your life. The same thing is happening right now with a close relative of mine, and he’s 32. Hopefully you’ll take a look at your situation and some of the decent advice provided in this thread and take some actual action. Or just play 1/2 ignition in a van, either way I’ll be here for the ride.

GL. I’m a big fan of the thread!

Just accept the fact that you're lazy and not going to change. Or do something about it. But don't waste your time feeling anxious about your lack of productivity. That's not good.

Is this the best you can do 6betme? Is this all you got?



Your brain gets plenty of oxygen no matter what. Just look at all the fat bodies out there crushing intellectual endeavors.

This bit is really worrying and strongly suggests to me that you speak to a psychiatrist. I don't know a lot about mental illness and depression but one thing I've learnt is that there is a whole spectrum of depression from the extreme clinical depression where you can't even get out of bed right through to high functioning depression where you can basically perform all the tasks necessary to live a normal life but just exist in a permanent malaise.

Reading your last post I'd guess you're some where on that spectrum but I'm not a psychiatrist. If I were you I would talk to one asap.

And if the thought of booking an appointment and going there alone seems to over whelming perhaps you could talk to your mom, or your brother or your wife or a trusted friend about this and ask them to help you find a psychiatrist, book the appointment, drive you there etcetera.

If you're especially unmotivated maybe you could get Poker Jim or Dluo to give you odds against not going.

One especially disturbing aspect of this thread if you really are suffering from a mental illness is the number of people telling you that you are just lazy, useless, entitled etcetera and that you should just get over it.

That's obviously not going to help.

You ever consider taking chess lessons? I know a good coach.

Keep your head up 6. You have a lot going for you.

You are young at 26, a white male that lives in Australia and a loving mother that you can rely on, and in a position go be able to enjoy video games, youtube and sushi every day.

Do look into therapy like others have said. It can only help.

Yeahhh, that's what I was fearing... Alright, there went my glimpse of hope that you might become a better man ; am going back to enjoying the lol HHs and vicious cycles of delusions

trading chess lessons for poker lessons, what could go wrong

Went to the gym today and trained hard. I let out all my anger and frustration and got a really nice leg workout. Going to give myself an A+ for this.

It's good when you can turn negative emotions into motivation to achieve something positive.

Nice work. Now use it as motivation to do something else positive that isn’t gym related. You have to create your own momentum.

Keep it going. Turning tragedy into triumph.

Thank you! I'll try.

I'm not usually much for motivational content, but feel a bit compelled to post this in thread

https://www.reddit.com/r/getdiscipli...e_about_myself

OP followed by top comment are the key ones. Maybe 6b can actually take a message like this to heart?

For sure speak to a therapist at this point. Also, you use words like I “plan” or “will try” with things that you 100% are capable of. Just say I’m going to the gym tomorrow and it can help get you in that mindset. Try getting any kind of normie job even part-time to get you some form of responsibility. Even a bus boy or a low level cook or a dog walker. Something to get you moving in the right direction.

The worst thing we do to 6bet is to continue posting here, whatever the content of our posts. This blog feeds his mental problems (those that don't like NPD, feel free to call it something else). For the sake of cheap entertainment we are all guilty of nourishing his sickness.

Most of the long term followers have tried (and utterly failed) to give 6bet genuine, sincere and even kind advice somewhere along the journey. Small wonder we resort to humour, irony and sarcasm in the face of the relentless drivel he spouts.

Lets not have any false 'noble intent' tho...we are all equally guilty here.

I gotta watch breaking bad...been on season 2 for years...sorry go on everyone

these fake grades (A+ for a gym session, jikes, there are multiple thousands of people going to the gym for decades without any recognition) just give you some fake confidence, i'd suggest you to grade your whole weeks to see where you really at, not just tasks induvidually. especially when you didn't even do basicly anything else for 2 weeks.

You're not wrong, but you're completely missing the point.

OP watches all the motivational vids on youtube, do you really think he hasn't heard of those ideas in your link? Obviously passive consumption of this type of stuff doesn't lead to him executing. In fact it's making everything worse, because the discrepancy of all these "crushers" who do this and do that and his day-to-day will let him feel like ****. This part made me chuckle the most:

"Didnt' do anything all ****ing day and it's 11:58 PM? Write one sentence. One pushup. Read one page of that chapter. One. Because one is non zero."

I swear to god OP posted this exact thing and then went on to do a bunch of non zeros lol. Motivational content and step-programms would be an option, if he would realize the urgency to act now or would hit rock bottom. He's still quite far away from both.


6bet, I've been where you are for over a decade. I finally found the switch at age 30, maybe even later, maybe I'm still looking for it lol. You're in your mid twenties, so you can freeroll 5+ years here, mate.

I know what it feels like to be afraid of losing all your money (especially when you have to support others), what it's like to lie in bed for 22 hours and most importantly what it feels like trying hard to be something you're not.
Trust me, you don't want to be a poker pro, you still have no idea what kind of ride you're signing up for here and you still vastly misjudge how your mindset literally dares ROR to manifest itself.
Your vivid imagination of the "poker crushers" doesn't exist. Believe me, despite all the financial success, every single person you're thinking of here has some kind of mental problems and demons. It's not like at some point you made it and then your mind just shuts off and you chill on the Bahamas for the rest of your life.

You're running out of options quick. The later you act, the harder it will become to find the switch. So do it now and make this your #1 priority. Everything else comes after that.

The whole process can be really annoying and tilting, so it's good practice for becoming future 6bet me, the master of frustration tolerance:

- Start looking for a therapist rn.
- Tell him you're having severe problems and make as many appointments as you can. It doesn't matter, if you actually think that, but it will get the ball rolling.
- Look into what your insurance covers, file an application for therapy.
- If you don't like the person or can't openly talk to them or feel uncomfortable, you start looking for someone else.

This might take a while (maybe even several years), but it's extremely important, that you make this your #1 priority right now, because it will enable you to start thinking realistically about your whole life and you can start developing a healthy confidence and authenticity. If you make steps in that direction, I guarantee you everything will slowly start making sense. And the 22 hour-naps will end. Everyone with a brain ITT knows how difficult this process is, so do it for them.They'll give you infinite amounts of the respect you crave, if you pull this off. Or do it to prove the haters wrong. It doesnt really matter at this point.
Realize you have one strength here: It's amazing how you seem to be honest about almost every aspect in your life and hold nothing back even in times where everything goes to shits. This is absolutely huge and most people aren't structured this way.
Go to a therapist and tell him absolutely everything you can in the one hour you got (you'll soon realize one hour is nothing, so try to get as many appointments as you can/insurance covers). Feel better on your way home. Repeat. Also keep the work outs going, your motivation here is key for every other aspect in your life. Don't drop the ball and keep pushing.
This is how it begins. Or not. GL!

can we get pics of said wife? can i get an intro?

I think I went through exactly the same **** as you when I was your age.
I continued the cycle of trying to find dedication and motivation in my life and failed over and over for soooo long and feeling shittier and shittier about myself.
Nothing I tried or motivation from outside seemed to help for longer periods of time. At some point I realized that there MUST be something else holding me back that I couldnt see yet.

It took me so many years of this cycle to realize that there are other forces guiding my actions that I couldnt see at the time and those even got misconstrued for being lazy or other things I could blame on myself.

Then I started conversational therapy that made those forces visible.
Not only do I know now with certainty why I behaved the way I did for so long, I found out how those forces are rooted in my childhood/past experiences and have been part of my life since forever, even before they started to seem counterproductive for my life.

I also had the realization that before I made those forces visible due to therapy there was literally nothing I could have done to change my behaviour on a fundamental level. I could only force change for short periods of time by using insane amounts of energy guided by superficial motivation before falling back into old behaviour.
That took like the biggest burden off me in therms of having to blame myself for failing to change.

Maybe you can look back on your past years and find situations where what you were thinking or wanting to do didnt align with your behaviour. Thats where some other invisible forces must have guided your behaviour.

Simplest example would be your plan of sticking to 100nl and grinding it out, but some invisible force (gambling addiction) kept pushing you playing higher and making irresponsible choices making you feel bad afterwards, without realizing there even was this force to begin with. You misconstrue it as being bored.

And I feel like there are plenty of those forces in your life aside from gambling that are keeping you back from conquering your life and pursuing your dreams. And without you knowing those forces excist in the first place, you cant adress them and are destined to repeat unwanted behaviour over and over again and even feel shitty afterwards because you just blame it on yourself.

I hope this might give you some incentive to look into therapy. You can only gain from it and maybe it might be the most +EV decision in your life as it has been for me

gl 6bet

Very strong post ulosen. Also on the point from Fodersneso in his last post as usual.

This last month or so is like watching re-runs of the same show.

I imagine the amount invested in writing advice is more time than OP has done the entire month of June for work.

Therapy lol.