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Originally Posted by max85
There is always an underlying issue waiting to rear it’s ugly head when it comes to tilt but what do you suggest to do in order to repair this leak? (Asking for free mental game coaching here hahahahaha)
Some thoughts that I know I suffer from especially when running well and I’m sure others have consistent issues that are similar
Wanting to win each session
Will grind longer to book a win
Feeling of playing badly when losing even though we understand it’s not in our control
The link between losing means we make mistakes but still doesn’t totally accept it can be variance
Understand variance is huge but losing 20bi still makes you feel crap
Subtle winners tilt
Obsessing with green sessions in hm2
Entitlement tilt when all in w more equity than opponent
Frustration
Distractions when grinding
The feeling of it’s my time to win when we know poker has no memory
These all may sound silly however I think they are the root cause of many players tilt and managing them helps tremendously. Sorry to clog up thread but hoping Ben can shed light on this which can help us all.
Yeah these are really good examples, and by no means are they silly (this is definitely the monkey brain that george mentioned before).
Ultimately, beneath every single one of those 'leaks' you mentioned is a feeling. Whether that feeling is disappointment, sadness, frustration, anger. Or even holding onto positive feelings like joy, contentedness, pride. The list is endless.
But under those 'umbrella' feelings, are even deeper ones - inadequacy, fear, vulnerability just to name a few. These are the parts that I personally feel are the most important aspects to sit with and give them space to breathe, not push them away.
This is why i wanna challenge when people say stuff like 'yeah i've worked loads on my mental game and i have come to X or Y conclusion' (which is invariably something like not checking their results or having repetitive conversations about how variance is sicker than anyone imagines etc etc). Ordinarily, 'mental game realisations' occur when the downswing is over too, which is probably a pretty strong reflection of results-oriented thinking. Obviously, as i said before, active changes like not checking results can help in the short term, but i am a strong believer that they will not be a permanent fix - usually demonstrated in the very same feelings occurring in the next downswing.
It's really up to the individual as to what they want to do - for some, the active choices are enough to get by. For others, these leaks may reach a make or break point and they decide to delve deeper into understanding their leaks (not just cognitively, but on a sensory level), as to the what's and why's that i mentioned in the previous post. I think it's fair to say that there is no right or wrong way of doing it. It's cool people are engaging with it too! Sorry for derail too morris, I'll stop now.
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