So there has been some argument about what being free truly means, and I want to put in my 2 cents, or 1 bb, however you guys want to put it.
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Originally Posted by ShaunUK
I don't think it's selfish...because you're someone who has come to know what he wants at the present time. Someone who hasn't gone against his ruminations simply because 'it's what people do'.
I'm not feeling the children thing for a whole host of reasons. I don't feel the desperate need to procreate or prolong my family name/lineage. I think that unless I find a woman in tune with the way I think I won't be feeling the marriage thing either. Whilst any relationship needs both people to be committed to communicating/working through issues, I think if you're set up mentally like I am and how ITT666 puts it, that you're only putting yourself in line for some serious arguments and differences when jealousy/ownership issues start to kick in.
Some may call it selfishness, I'm inclined to call it self-awareness.
Dude, I agree with you complete. I mean, it's spot on. I've been in that situation where there are a few too many differences, and divergence takes place. I imagine an old couple, possibly in their 50's or so, that used to be all hot and heavy together when they were 17, but now they barely talk to each other because the things that drew them close in the first place like sexual attraction have faded. They just glance at each other in the morning and despise each other. On the other hand...
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Originally Posted by LordRiverRat
That would be the first problem.
Anyways as for KK, it's not better at all. He started with 2k and claims to have 6-7k these days. Almost two years later his net worth has increased 4-5k which means on average he's saving like $200 a month. For someone not paying rent that means he sucks at money management, makes a pitiful hourly or doesn't put in the hours.
I've sucked d1ck in a cubicle before. It sucked d1ck. But if I stuck with it for a couple more years I coulda saved enough to quit and grind 5/10 full time instead of 50NL. Something to think about.
TLDR, to each his own. There’s no such thing as truly free, accepting that will lead you to a more blissful life. A while back I picked up a homeless hitchhiker named Will and drove him across 2 states. Youngish, about 30 with long hair but clean shave. He lives under bridges and sh** occasionally, uses an old nokia phone from 2003 with texting capabilities, and actually has a girlfriend, in oregon that he visits once in a while. I’ve met her, she’s kind of pretty believe it or not. Anyways, this just shows you life isn’t always about money, and you can find happiness in other avenues as well.
I also think having a 9 to 5, family and kids can be a wonderful existence as well. If you do it right. Especially with the holidays, I know first hand how depressing and suicidal thought provoking single life is. I can’t imagine being 40 or 45 and not having someone to come home to, let alone a home at all. Yea, having a family you won’t be living an adventurous life for yourself anymore banging young chicks every weekend, but if I’ve taken anything from my studies in economics, life isn’t about win win, it’s about tradeoffs.
By the way RiverRat, I know a little about personal finance and I know many many people who make 22K-60K and literally have nothing left in their bank accounts at the end of each month because of credit card debt, and living in a luxurious apartment paying 2.8K a month. Then they spend whatever they have left on booze and consumption. So being able to “save” a couple hundred dollars a month? I consider that winning.