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Originally Posted by Darth_Maul
I've noticed how my negative mindset from the bad run affects me in these spots. You'd think a losing streak would make me less inclined to call off but the opposite seems to happen. I get so annoyed at the losing that I can't stand letting go of a good hand when I have one and giving up a potentially big pot. I get so discouraged at the thought of having to work my way back from a damaged stack that I seem to throw in the towel. It's a way of absolving myself of the responsibility for making bad decisions if I fold the best hand too. I think, "Screw it, if he has a better hand then it's just another cooler. Not my fault."
Hmm, my son just came to mind as I was writing this. He plays elite baseball and his big weakness as a hitter was that he used to be very passive and would take way too many close calls with 2 strikes, resulting in too many strikeouts looking. It was totally a mindset thing for him too. He hated striking out swinging because that's his fault, but if he strikes out looking he can blame the umpires for a bad call. Not his fault. I guess the apple doesn't fall far from the tree.
I learned a great saying in acting school. When you become aware of a thing, it has less power over you.
The fact you're aware of it is just the beginning. I want to respectfully give you a challenge to keep you accountable for your growth. The next time you feel your mindset slipping from a bad beat or cold deck or a suck out, I just want you to simply observe the thoughts and how you feel like you would if you saw yourself as an passive observer.
Then moment you do that, on a consistent basis, is the moment you build up the muscle of tilt control. The moment you forget to do this, on a consistent basis, is when you let this continue to affect your sessions.
You're 100%. It does suck laying down pocket Queens on an 47JAK board. But when you're getting 3 bet on the turn and 2 bet on the river, you know you're beat. It's the ego talking. Wanting validation and wanting to avoid defeat. The irony is, you lose the battle but win the war by making sick hero folds. Why would you want to give away your hard earned money so easily? That's the better trick.
Eventually, the tables turn and they make mistakes like bluffing all in when you hold the nut flush or top set or full house.
You're a good man Darth. I really enjoy reading your journey as you're completely coachable and able to admit your shortcomings so you can grow into a better player. This is what I strive to be myself.
Funny thing about your son, the same logic I describe above applies. This is all tilt control and grappling with your thoughts. When the mind wanders, the emotions can get volatile and the body follows. Your relationship with your mind and emotions is one where you want to walk the dog, not let the dog walk you.
Onto the next one!