I'm Human After All (thank God)
Title pretty much says it all. Just got back from a 2 day stint at Foxwoods and I basically just want to write my thought's down ITT as I want to be able to reference this in the future. Also for the people who actually read this I haven't been able to update as I have been incredibly busy with baseball and didn't play poker the last weekish or so. Coming back from 2 days of play.
Firstly I went to Foxwoods on Sunday afternoon after a double-header of baseball in New Haven (about half way to casino for me), went right after my games to Mohegan sun for some lounge food. I took a quick shower when I got to Foxwoods and then immediately got on the grind.
I stayed up there with my parents as they got a room and were attended a show at Mohegan that I got them tickets for, they loved it
My session on sunday actually went quite well. Off the top of my head I can not really remember any huge pots or anything but I think I played good and I can give myself a solid
B for my overall play on the day. Played roughly 7hrs from 5-12 and then went upstairs to sleep. I ended up +540 at 2/5, was pretty happy with my play.
The negatives-
I have spent a lot of time ITT saying the things I think are important in live poker. Before I touch on what happened to me tonight (monday session) I just want to state them and why I think each one is important.
In order of importance.
1.
Ego
So much money is won and lost in this game due to people having ego issues. The biggest one in this category is people afraid of folding the best hand. Playing poker against a range of hands means that sometimes you are folding the best hand, but sometimes you are folding to a guy who is at the bottom of
his range. If you are too concerned with how you "look" or that you are just really annoyed when you get "outplayed", that is a huge leak.
Good players don't get outplayed. Outplayed references the long run. Surely there are times where you get completely crushed in a hand. I talked about a hand a while ago where some young girl like 3x pot 4b my l/rr with 52o when I had JJ. Did she "outplay" me that hand? I guess. But I hold one of the two hands I would ever fold in that spot (JJ/1010) and I think I am not going to see this nonsense bluff too often. How often does that happen? Almost never. Did it bother me? No. I know that her spew costs her tons of money in the long run and I think I played my jacks in a way that is going to make the most money in the long run. This particular hand I got "owned". Does that make it a bad play? No.
Ego makes a ton of good players into mediocre players. I think a common scenario is flashy younger internet players (I am certainly in the "internet" group, but I am not flashy, I'm quiet) that think they are so much better then everyone else that they can open Q10o UTG and 3bet 53ss.
These plays are not profitable live. The reason kids make plays like that is out of ego. There is not a single player I have ever encountered that can realistically insert 53ss and regularly 3bet it as a profitable play. Their thinking ties into balance (which is so overrated live) and fold equity. Balance is not important (most of the time) and fold equity is almost never there against a standard limp happy guy that opens. They just want to show their 1337 poker skills and have everyone admire them.
As much as I am aware of the difficulties of online > live, the live reg types have the worst egos of them all. Berating fish, playing on tilt, giving everyone at the table constant lessons etc. Why does the older guy need to tell you he has been playing this game since before you were born? Hint: rhymes with "weego".
The younger (and better) influx of poker players into the live arena has certainly challenged their ego and now they need to say every little thing they can to boost their own ego and display their alpha-maleness. Not to mention the money. I'm sure some of them are just a-holes by nature, but it gets magnified in a poker room because the general guidelines set by society are often overlooked in a casino environment.
Put simply, poker is a game of math. There are other nuances as well but ultimately, a flush draw will not beat a set. Why is that the case? Mathematically it is impossible. Certain playertypes will void all sense of reason and make erroneous plays because of their ego. Whether it is a young kid 3betting too light, too often, or an old guy berating some drunk for cracking his aces.
Making plays for any reason other then to pad your wallet is fundamentally flawed and very likely an incorrect play.
Check your egos at the door people. Inflate your wallet, not your head.
2. Poker Skill/Applying it at the Tables
This is not as self-explanatory as it may seem. Certainly we all get the "good players make money, bad players lose money" idea (I hope).
In depth- good players can be bad players due to misapplication of what they know, or other things holding them back.
When I first starting playing live I was playing breakeven-slight winner at best poker. I am not all that great of player now, but I am 100x better then I was when I played my first session at Mohegan sun (my first hand AKo in the BB, check option and c/f fold, great times).
I am not that much better now because I miraculously figured out how to 3bet aces or how to raise with the nuts. Certainly my game is gotten technically better due to study/experience but in my opinion I have elevated to the level of player I am today (I am not cocky) by learning how to apply what I know. Generally speaking, knowing how to build a house is only a useful skill if you actually grab a hammer and build a god damn house.
How many people know that straddling is incredibly -EV but do it anyway? How many people give the old "I know I'm beat but I call" and do it anyway? How many people know that drinking/continuing to play while tilting is bad but do it anyway? Tons. There are a million examples I could give where good players make plays that they know are bad because they don't care enough to adjust. For example, in my Sunday (winning) session I folded KQo in the BB to an MP raise because I don't want to 3b and I know playing KQo OOP against this guy is unprofitable. In my Monday (losing) session I called with KQo in the BB and knew it was -EV as those 5 red chips went in the middle. It's only 25$ right, been card dead lets go. This is an example of my poker knowledge being superior to my opponents, but not executing the correct play for whatever reason. Why would I (or anyone) do that?
There needs to be an aspect of control along with your knowledge of pot odds and equity distribution. Knowing the correct play is only good if you
make the correct play.
I put poker skill as #2 because you will never make correct long-term plays if your ego won't allow you to. Ego-management is that important in my eyes. Great players are only great if they make great plays.
3. Adapting to your Situation
One thing that always baffled me (and I did/do this too) is that people will play shorter sessions when winning and longer sessions while losing.
The reason for this is they psychologically (ego) want to book a win, and they psychologically (ego) want to not book a loss.
Let's say we hold 88 against a complete maniac who has a super wide bluffy 3b shoving range with his 400$ remaining stack. We are up 200$ at the moment after the money we put into this pot. He shoves 400$. Mathematically in this situation we know we are well ahead of his range and calling here is profitable. Let's make the bet 600$ in the same spot, 1000$ in the same spot, doesn't matter. If we are ahead we should always call. I know there are people that completely change their game based on whether they are winning or losing.
Now lets say we are stuck 300$ in the same spot. We are pretty much snapping this off because we have a great chance to get even or slightly ahead.
This thinking is flawed. The money value is always the same, it's either +EV or -EV. The only exception here would be a bankroll/variance concern.
Obviously my example is kind of extreme/specific so I'll give you a realistic one from my own experience.
When I had that sick may month I was up 9.5k on may 29th or 30th or whatever.
I had originally planned to leave early morning on the third day of my trip after playing for two days. When I woke up on the third day I looked at my poker journal and noticed the 9.5k and decided 10k sounded so much better. I had baseball practice at 5 and it was 11ish am. Was seriously contemplating playing just to reach 10k so I could know i made 10 grand in a month.
Why the hell does that even matter? I was tired, had a commitment I wanted to be focused for, and had absolutely no reason to play. I didn't. Why was I considering putting myself in a -EV (or at least less +EV) spot? 1. Ego. A lot of bad poker related decision can be tied back to ego. Fwiw I didn't play and left as planned.
4.
Becoming Emotionally Attached
Poker is game that is about making money. Not fun, not socializing (for me). Geez. That makes me sound miserable. The few of you who read my thread that actually know who I am can hopefully vouch that I am not a miserable ******* but as far as my view on poker that is it. Of course people play for different reasons but my statements there are directed to the more hardcore guys who actually want to get better/make a living whatever.
I will not softplay anyone. Anyone. First off I think it is completely and utterly against the spirit of the game and is completely unfair to the other players at the table. Saying that your only softplaying HU pots is not an excuse. Softplaying in poker is a terrible instance. You should only play with friends if
1. Your close enough to lose money to each other and not care. It should have no bearing on the outcome of hands. If your friends folds to cbets too much you should cbet him to death.
2. You both want to play and there is absolutely no other option.
For instance, I am in the sb with A
A
. Player A opens in MP to 30$, player B is on the button with J
J
, normally he would always 3b this for value but its his buddy and it's just jacks so lets see a flop.
In the instance I have lose the extra 6-7BB from the 3bet OTB. Softplaying in any form affects everyone.
Emotional attachment to money, people, or hands is a mistake. You need to be able to drop 2 buyins and keep grinding if the game is good. You need to be able to fire a third barrel is its profitable.
I was listening to Bart Hanson's podcast on my way home and he had Tommy Angelo on this episode. Tommy is/was a mindset coach whom has coached a fair amount of high stakes guys. He mentioned how one of his students said that lost an amount of money that could of put of parents into a condo in florida for five years.
Now, I'm not exactly losing that kind of money but the thousands that cycle in and out (mostly in though son) can not have any emotional affect on me.
The classic poker example is the losing session that may cause a guy to be pissed off the rest of the day. I do my absolute best to keep my poker life completely isolated from my personal life and I would suggest everyone to do the same. Being pissed off you lost is bad, but it also bad for you to be too happy when you win as well.
There is not one person who gets regular 100% details of how much I won or how much I lost. Not my parents, not my best friends, not my baseball coaches, noone. Standard line is always "yeah fine". As I'm sure with most of you who spend hours upon hours in casinos, people get annoying and ask.
Winning never feels as good as losing does bad.
This Trip
So as I wrote earlier, started out good (+500) and I ended up dropping (1.5k) on Monday.
So on the trip I lost
one thousand dollars. I hope my tone in the earlier portion contained a bit of my frustration. I would also like to state, it is not the money that got me down. I've lose more then that in a day and when your buying in for 500 a pop, dropping 1500 in a game is not all that bad (money wise). Super standard to lose that much. I understand that.
The reason I am so frustrated with this session and also elected to drive home early, is that I played bad. I also think it's because I kind of forget what a big loss feels like as I have been running godly of late.
I made mistakes at the poker table. Some regarding ego, some technical mistakes, just a very sloppy session. I started off +300 too and ended up -1.5k.
An example. I am stuck roughly 500 at this point.
Decent black dude raises 25 UTG and I have AK. Folds to me in MP and I elect to flat. 3betting here is a mistake as it is turning AK into a bluff and I want to keep his weaker A's K's in his range. His UTG range is going to be tight as well as he is certainly positonally aware and we are 100bb deep. With 100bb stacks I am not a fan of 3b folding AK. He would probably expect me to 3b AK so it may widen his calling range a little bit more. Lol @ him 4betting anything worse then KK tho (live game so predictable).
One guy called behind me and flop comes K
9
3
He bets 35, I make it 125 and original raiser shoves for like 3 and change more.
What hands is this guy 3b shoving the flop with. I was hoping for AQhh AJhh or maybe a chop.
Those are the only 2 hands I can beat, and AJhh might even be a limp for this guy UTG.
Of course I tank called and he had aces and I'm drawing to 2 outs. Sucks.
At face value this hand looks like a cooler, it's not. It is total spew by me and I played the hand differently because I had a chance to get even. Big pots with 1 pair live = not a great idea. Especially against an UTG raiser who 3b shoves a Khigh flop. I also thought he might put me on a draw and value shove QQ or JJ. Very lol rob.
The fact is that I played very bad and completely ignored my own advice. I was absolutely
glued to this game (that wasn't very good) because I wanted to get unstuck. I took no breaks, didn't eat, just lit a few benjamins on fire. I would much rather get 2 outted 3 times in a row that having to know that I lost money due to my own
ego. Terrible.
Frustration really sucks. I was actually too frustrated to even want to walk over to a guy at a table next to me that happens to have read some of my thread and said he liked it. Sorry! Buy you a beer next time lol.
Success comes from Failure
With this trip I made mistakes I should never make again. I am man enough to say (or type) that I played really bad and made bad poker related decisions.
The good news is that I should never make those mistakes again.
I usually listen to a Bart Hanson podcast on my way to/from casino and the way home I stumbled on a perfect one to hear. It was Bart Hanson talking to Tommy Angelo about being a poker player. No strategy, just tilt management, when to quite etc stuff like that.
It was really good to hear and I might even pick up one of Tommy's books cause I think I could benefit from it, he came across quite well on the show.
He said some very interesting tilt control techniques that I'll have to try out. (I'm really not a tilt monkey just overall frustrated today.)
Thanks for reading guys....
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