Join Date: Jun 2009
Posts: 84
Dear Alchemists,
today I would like to continue my mini-series and again link a worldly topic with poker language. After talking about general life and GTO last week, today I want to write about love and Equilibrium. Having come out of a toxic relationship myself a year ago, it is natural to assume that this could not have been the end of the line. So if you realize too late in a relationship that you have not improved your skills enough and are ultimately being taken advantage of, you should first get back to a more normal level, with or without help. Today, fortunately, more people are also getting help from the head and not just the body for illnesses.
If we break down this state, which I called GTO last week, a little further, we can rightly say that we have reached interpersonal equilibrium. So if we conduct a relationship on this basis, no one should make a profit or a loss. Now let's ask ourselves the consensus question: Do we want to have a relationship at all, in which even no one can hurt or be hurt?
Sounds good in principle. Unfortunately, we do not take into account that it is precisely the emotions that make up love in the first place. But emotions are by definition not necessarily to be pressed into a structured framework, which is why it could be assumed that we vary slightly from the equilibrium, which of course leads to friction, which makes life worth living for many.
Let's think this a little bit further and look at such an equilibrium in detail. In poker we used the term equilibrium mainly for the proof discovered by Nash. This originates from the mathematical field of topology, which he connected game theoretically with poker. Here, he correlates the quality of a strategy with many other avoidably better or worse ones, which ultimately leads him to an equilibrium. That is, a strategy that can no longer be improved.
In the poker literature one uses for this e.g. Shove and Calling Ranges and lets for example a Range push and another call too little. However, if the caller knew how much the shoving player was pushing, he would have to increase his calling range, since several hands would be profitable. If the shoving player knew that the caller had adjusted his range, he too could do so, as certain hands also take from in or out of the range. This process goes back and forth until there is nothing left.
Yep, exactly you can already think it, an equilibrium.
In a relationship we certainly don't change to take advantage of each other, on the contrary, we change either out of love or to adjust to the new life situations or both. It is certainly not so clear to separate. At least the same is that we use both adjustments in poker and in life out of pure opportunism. We want to win more in poker and we definitely want to get along better with ourselves, our loved ones and our environment in everyday life. As is said to have been written on the temple of Delphi, "know thyself", and learn.
Last edited by ben.nie; 03-30-2023 at 11:38 AM.
