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Originally Posted by Mr Spyutastic
You're right I could/should have been a bit more tactful. But I don't think anything I said is a personal attack though you are perceiving it that way.
There is a difference between being social at the table talking about whatever and the table talk of "This guy is so loose look I CR'd him w/ air because he's folding everytime blah blah"
I still stand by the opinion that kind of talk where you're revealing a "cool" play you did to others and talking strategy is terrible. Again not you the person. That specific genre of table talk.
It's like if I say someone played a hand terribly, I'm not attacking them personally.
The other part is also just my opinion of why you are making that type of table talk.
I think it typically stems from ego and some sort of need or desire for validation. I feel like this is a reasonable assumption because what other reason is there? But of course I could be wrong. Again I don't see a personal attack here though you're taking it as one.
Anyways a lot of words to say that I was just critiquing the table talk. And I do think it ties into a lot of hands that you post where the decisions are pretty clear, but the reveal is always some sort of (look at this hero fold, hero call, hero raise where it's terrible in theory, but because of this this this very unique circumstance that only I know I made the perfect play!)
If you want to make that sort of observation about me, make it to me directly. I'm a big boy, and can take it in stride. I'd respect the opinion and the courage to express it, if it was delivered in such a way, like "Dude, consider you might be playing emotionally, and that your logic may be flawed."
Making the comment you did, not to me directly, but as an aside, to someone else, in a less artful way, and knowing I'll see it, strikes me as being smarmy, like the small kid in school who chums around with the big kid, happy to talk smack while standing in his buddy's shadow.
You don't know me. You don't know my motivations. You shouldn't make assumptions about anyone based on limited information gleaned from some limited internet discussion. If you want to know something about me, ask.
I'll tell you freely that my username originates from the earliest days of the internet, when I was a medic in the Army, where all the infantry guys called us "Doc". I was cadre at Ranger School, surrounded by men who went through 70+ days of living hell for the honor of pinning a three-inch piece of fabric to their shoulder, several who'd gone through the Army's combat diver course, somewhat analogous to Navy Seal training, some who'd also gone through special forces selections, an even longer and more arduous test of their physical stamina and mental resolve, and a few who served with Delta Force, the most elite SF unit of that service.
I spent years surrounded by some of the toughest men to ever walk the face of the Earth, more than once having been in a life-or-death situation, where my own survival or someone else's relied upon my ability to perform under pressure, and just getting through the workday required me to keep my ego in check. What would take most people a week to recover from, to us was just "Thursday".
One absolute truth I learned was that the more dangerous the man, the more unfailingly courteous he was in all his personal interactions, in uniform but even more so out of uniform, not because he feared what might happen to him, but because he rightly feared what he might be forced to do to someone else, were there some unfortunate misunderstanding.
As a corollary, I found the guys who went around acting and talking tough were bluffing, hoping to never have to back up their words with action, invariably leading to the most comical results when exactly that happened.
As a consequence, I have zero respect for people who casually insult others on the internet, because I came of age before the internet, when men learned the value of courtesy, and the potentially harsh consequences of rudeness.
It may not seem like it, but I did you a courtesy today. I showed you the respect of letting you know I saw what you did, didn't appreciate it, and that I won't have it. In the real world, that would be the only warning.
Unfortunately, most of our interactions with others now take place in virtual space, where the worst I can do is add you to my ignore list, and hope the forum moderators don't take a dim view of my audacity for calling out disrespect when I see it.
For whatever it's worth, so long as it's not laced with insulting innuendo, I do in fact value your opinion, even if it's critical of my play or reasoning, and hope you won't hesitate to share it. I should probably be more mindful to express my appreciation for anyone who would bother.
