I hope this is allowed here. This isn't the happiest of posts, so I appreciate you reading this.
Anyways, this about my problem with marijuana. I'm a senior in college right now, I took my first hit of weed the summer going into senior year of high school. I had always had 2-3 good friends growing up, but the summer going into senior year I started to make a crazy number of friends, got invites to all of the parties, started to get some attention from girls, and became pretty popular at school - which all of this to my very immature brain felt like this was as good as life could be. I bring all of this up, because this was directly correlated to me starting to smoke weed. I was no longer seen as the quiet kid that no one really knew anything about, and was now the latest, greatest pot head.
It stated with a few hits at the beginning of the summer. I didn't smoke again for a couple of months because I didn't have access, and wasn't craving it. Then I met my new friend group, and all they did was smoke weed, and so I did with them probably 5 times a week, but then when school started back up I was a serious student and only smoked with them Fri-Sun. Then that changed towards the end of the school year...I started incorporating Thursdays because it's almost the weekend, and then I started incorporating Mondays because Monday sucks and we gotta brighten it up. By the time I started my freshman year of college I was smoking minimum once a day, and over the next three years I got to a point where I was smoking at least three times a day on average - yeah, there was about a 6ish month stretch there where I was sober for maybe an hour a day. It just felt so good and I would stop stressing about whatever I was stressing about, music would sound so much better, I would "have fun" eating, and everything and everyone around me was hilarious.
This past summer I didn't smoke weed for the first day in years when I went on vacation a few hours up north with my parents a few times. They were only 2-3 day trips each time, but I wanted to a) prove to myself that I could actually go a whole 2-3 days with no weed and b) my parents have never explicitly said they know about the weed, but I know they do and I know they don't like it, so I didn't wanna make the vacations awkward. Anyways, I noticed I was getting super irritable and having a tough time sleeping but I also noticed I felt a lot smarter, a lot wittier, I felt so much less anxiety, I wasn't wasting time thinking about what everyone thought about me, and I just felt more sharp.
However, at the end of the trips, I would always smoke literally the instant I got home, I just couldn't wait. And this carried over to this school year...I would smoke every morning (before my workout if I was lifting that day, and after if I was running because it'll **** with your lungs.) Then I would smoke again at least one more time before bed, but it was usually 2-3 more times.
Over the past couple of months I've been thinking a lot about all of the negatives weed has been doing to me. I get anxiety almost every time I smoke, I think about every single negative social interaction or "did he/she think what I said/did was stupid?" every time I smoke, the idea of socialising was just not a thing, every time I saw an attractive woman I would want to leave wherever I was because I knew being high would make it way too hard to talk to her and if I did talk to her I'd have out of this world anxiety the whole time and if she rejected me that's all I would have on my mind for the next week or so, I would lose interest in everything besides listening to music, I wouldn't be able to think of anything witty to say until minutes later when I'm on point sober, etc.
Well I got my wisdom teeth out one week ago today, and you can't smoke for a week when that happens. Of course, the first thing on my mind was "we need to go to the dispensary by campus and get enough edibles to last a week, asap." So I did. But also keeping in mind my growing unhappiness towards weed, I decided I'd only eat them at the end of the day to unwind, have a couple of fun hours, and be able to sleep.
I've officially ran out of edibles, but I'm also free to smoke now, too. Anyways, I was planning on doing my work from home gig for a while, and playing around with Flopzilla all day, then I have a political discussion club I go to that's meeting tonight. All I was thinking about during my workout today was, "if we're only doing weed once a day, and avoiding it before social interactions, when the hell are we gonna have time to smoke." And that's when I finally broke. I have a problem. People that don't have problems aren't devoting time/thinking it's a problem as to when they'll be able to smoke or not.
So with that being said, I have fully realized that I need to make changes even deeper than just smoking once a day. I'm not gonna smoke today, but where does this end? I don't foresee myself smoking tomorrow either because I'm hanging with my cousin, then I'm gonna play poker for about 6 hours, and there'll be no need to because I'm gonna go to bed after my session. I could definitely see Sunday night working out as an acceptable time to smoke, but does it even make sense to? Will I just be on a slippery slope that's going to make me want to just start smoking again every day, and slowly into twice a day, to the point where I smoke 3x a day again? I'm nervous because I've had sooooo many fun memories smoking, and I am a sucker for going for a several walk on a nice summer night after I smoked listening to music. I don't want to forever give up smoking weed, but I will 100% say that smoking weed never is better than smoking every day, so I'm really in a pickle, and unsure of what to do. Do you think it'd be fine to just try and only smoke on days like this coming Sunday where it's harmless to smoke because I'll just be doing leisure activities anyways? Do you think I should commit to a month cold turkey and then see from there if I want to smoke when there's nothing else to do for the day besides liesure activities? Does anyone have anything like a similar experience to this?
I'm also nervous because I know if I go cold turkey I will be super irritable indefinitely, I will have trouble sleeping, and I will get random spells of sheer sadness. I also know my anxiety problems won't go away like magic, and
my horrible incompetence with women won't go away either, so I might just feel worse as a whole, I fear. I remember when I quit caffeine a few years ago, I went in with the plan of just drinking caffeinated drinks when I felt like it after I broke the physical addiction, but after a few dips with caffeine again I said **** it and literally haven't drank caffeine once in ~3.5 years. I also never got addicted to alcohol, even though I was drinking every weekend my senior year of high school. I only drink alcohol ~ once every six weeks now and I'm totally happy with it and never crave it.
Sorry, I don't initially anticipate this post being so long, and again sorry if this isn't allowed on this forum, I just know y'all are older than me, and potentially could've gone through something similar. You also all seem to be very intelligent and wise individuals, and you've given me great poker advice over the years, so I was hoping if anyone had a similar problem in their lives that they'd be willing to share some insight
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