Congrats to G and G-wife, as well as the King and Queen. 42 years is a helluva accomplishment.

Thanks, guise.

Twenty years for us. As wive said, "WTF?" Sure doesn't seem like it could have been that long on the one hand. On the other, seems like anything from before our wedding is ancient history, so perhaps it's surprising that it's been that short.

20 and 42 years is a long time. Congrats guys, marriage can be hard work but in my experience the work has a big ROI.

Congrats on the 20 & 42 years guys/gals, well done!

I'm just a rookie coming up on 14 years in a few months. But far and away the best move I ever did (and not close).

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Not to be Debbie Downer but my wife and I agreed to separate on our 20th wedding anniversary!

Congrats! Maybe don’t answer the phone if she calls today?

Sorry, FW. I understand it's been tough for you and the family. I hope you're doing as well as can be, all things considered.

Thx all. I think longevity is believing that we each got the better end of the deal. She really took a chance on me as I was kinda muddling thru life up until I was 25ish. She was just finishing up her immunology PhD defense when we tied the knot. Two years later she realized she was a golf widow and chose to go after her next degree (MD).

We did a few runs at Copper today in the sunshine. Super soft corn. The edges were still 12" tall piles of mashed potatoes and tough on this old guy. BUT... I don't feel real bad since MOST of the edges were not skied/boarded since it was probably hard for youngsters as well.

0 kids got my **** fixed so I’ll never have to worry about some brat that looks like me not respecting my raises (metaphor) ever.

3 cats tho. One is smart as **** and seemingly justified my hypothesis that cats are in fact aliens on vacation ****ing with us - see they transfer their consciousness into the brain of a furry murder machine and just ****ing relax all day while we tend to their every need and want. (Convinced yet? I’ll try harder)

We’re on 5 years almost but been together for almost 14 so I’m approaching your pain point*

*I mean this lovingly

I generally ask a few days or more in advance. I help out the kids to bed and leave after things are settled. If it’s a weekend evening, I try to take the kids out by myself for a few hours so she gets a break. Then without me asking she usually lets me sleep in a little extra in the morning and handles the kids until the older one gets impatient and comes to wake me up.

I don’t play more than 1x a month on average these days so it’s not a huge burden.


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Miami has officially outed himself as Andrew Robl.

Yeah what the married folks (happy anniversary) said. Use this as practice for talking over and learning how she reacts to the major life decisions. For example, when Wing CmDr Garlick asked the wife to polish his medieval battle uniform while he went to the bar. She replied I always wanted a night in, shining armor.

I have much better hair
He is much luckier at the pokerz (also way better)


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Happy anniversary folks

Feely - I know it doesn’t feel this way now and you’re situation is clearly more complicated than my divorce was but it was one of the best things that ever happened to me / that I ever did. It will get better mate.


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thanks but I'm doing pretty well I think. Certainly about the actual separating from a relationship standpoint, which I seem very settled about, because I'm sure it's the right thing. We're separating in the same home which isn't ideal but is fine and saves a ton of $$.

Still got a ton of the separation admin to get through and after that...prolly selling the house and having to rent/buy something else which will be expensive and difficult for the kids. but tbh I want to get on with it to be able to get through all the BS this year and then move on with my life

also have started rooting a very nice NSA bird, which helps!

Mostly this. The "little" Breezes are 21 and 17 now and they know I play 2-3 Saturdays a month, when I don't have other commitments. Poker comes after the kids/wife/life stuff.
Mrs Breeze is on board with it. And being on a reasonable heater this year is helpful.

Have realistic expectations on both sides and find a middle ground that can work. Remember that the best deal is where no one gets everything they want.

boom, thanks. Most of my friends who've gone through it are happier on the other side. I'm definitely a happy person and am confident I'll be fine in that regard. It's the financial thing which is going to hurt the most because losing half my money at age 52 is a hard thing to come back from...particularly in a place like Sydney with eye watering property prices. I'm going to have to borrow 7 figures to be able to buy even an entry level house where I currently live. And I need to live here both because I don't want to unsettle my kids during high school but also all my friends are here and also my parents, who retired here from the UK 10 years ago. So I need to find another 4 bed home here