I recently moved up from a 1/3 NL to 2/5 NL home game, and have been really struggling at this level, and I'm getting lost in what to do. It's a pretty deep game with lots of action. We are 11 handed at this point.

Villain (UTG+3): $3K. Young, solid TAG. Is usually a winning player there. Usually shows down with the goods. Very active when he's in a pot. I haven't won a big pot against this guy in a long time, and he has been crushing me.

Hero (MP): $900. I've been playing pretty tight at this game. In previous games though, Villain has seen me play much more loosely.

OTTH

Pre-flop
V opens to 20
folds to Hero who sees QQ
Hero 3b to 60
folds back to V who 4b to 180. (Note: In a previous night, he saw me 4b UTG with AQo, and he called with AQs in the HJ. He called my all-in flop bluff with a flush draw which made on the river)
Hero calls

Pot 360

Flop A93
V bets 500

I range V to AA, AK, KKx. Possibly JJ, which is about the only hand I'm beating. And I ended up folding.

Any thoughts on how I played this hand?

Fine with preflop action. Hero can utilize position and eval flop. Based on Villains actions, I agree with your range except JJ. I would fold as well.

This, assuming V isn't getting out of line with his 4bets, which it doesn't sound like he is.

Fold pre?