i can't throw my bishops right out and it ends up leading to pawns coming further in the centre blocking my major pieces and pushing me bk
it leads to a nitty game
If your opponent avoids contact, it is impossible to win material. That may be something new for you because you are used to tactical operations that capture stuff. like he moves out a piece and you win it. If he refuses to move his pieces out, you don't know what to play for.
Beating such inferior openings requires you to reach the next step as a player. You need to be able to grab space and transform this sort of advantage into material gains later on. If you ever played the old arcade game Space Invaders, you know what I am talking about. There is a nice example for such a conversion in the 2+2 magazine this month.