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Originally Posted by craig1120
Every human being has to deal with the constant feeling of unfulfillment in some way. The preferred default reaction is always repression. Many people will mistakenly believe they are not unfulfilled because of either subconscious repression or denial.
If the feeling cannot be repressed, it will drive behavior to relieve it. There are countless options available to try to attempt to alleviate the unfulfillment. What usually happens is people get their hopes up that they have found 'the answer' and they mentally go from unfulfilled to fulfilled until that option has been exhausted, shown to be ultimately unsuccessful, and they are back in the unfulfilled zone where the search continues. This cycle continuously repeats itself.
For a few reasons, religion is a powerful supposed solution to this problem. First, that hopeful feeling people get when they think they have the answer is often very profound. But more importantly, it is even harder to concede failure with religion since the payoff is promised in the future.
Emotion hijacks truth and objectivity when it comes to alleviating this unfulfillment. Trying to reason with people to see the error in their ways when it comes to religion has little chance of success much like trying to convince someone that chasing money won't make them happy or whatever other compulsive activity that a person chooses for relief.
That impulse for resolution is so strong that if you try to take it away, the reaction will be denial. So then is it even possible to influence people in this area?
The ONLY effective way to do this is to skillfully lead people toward the feeling of unfulfillment that remains. Complacency is the enemy of progress. By making people more aware of their unfulfillment, they will inevitably be called to action. Often, this means that they will dive deeper into their chosen religion. This is a GOOD thing. It allows the religious person to go to the limits of what their religion can provide to the point of exhaustion.
As people become more consciously aware of this unfulfilled feeling within, they are less likely to seek harmful solutions. Instead of trying to engage with people on an intellectual level regarding religion (or any other option for fulfillment), it would be more productive to promote self-awareness.
Arguments and discussions based on reason can occasionally be a catalyst for sincere introspection, but more often they perpetuate the denial and make the problem worse - groups are formed and walls are erected. This feeling of unfulfillment UNITES us all and that would be a better area of focus.
As you better understand yourself, you are able to better understand others. As you better understand others and are able to recognize the real issues with greater clarity, only then will you be able to implement effective solutions. The majority of people are constantly engaged in harmful or unproductive activities. They will be stuck in this place until they acknowledge their unfulfillment through self examination, which leads to change. That is what needs to be promoted.
I found that as I grew older, the causes of my unfulfillment presented themselves in a moral context. For example, I realized that "my own ways" were destroying my life, in general. The thought was that I had abandoned something good and valuable that would have served me much better in life. I looked back on my mistakes, and they were all mistakes a Christian version of myself would never make.
I believe this was 'the beginning of wisdom,' in a way. If you are 35 and an atheist that is coming around to see that everything in the book is there to protect you from making a mess of your life and your society; and not only that, but that the moral program it lays out seems just and right to you, now you have a problem. You are already have faith in God, in a way. You have faith in His ways and his words.
I guess, what I'm trying to say is that I don't think you can frame these questions within religion/no-religion. I believe the difference between belief and non-belief can be slippery and subtle at times. Sometimes, breaking free means rejecting the ideas, the moral code, the people, the community, etc.