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Originally Posted by kb coolman
But this is a matter of semantics made necessary by the English language, and nothing more. We use 'love' for multiple meanings, where Greek would use eros/agape/phileo/storge.
Yes, this is significant. I am a little bemused at neeel's "what is this 'air' you speak of" attitude, which I may be wrong but makes him sound as if he does not know what love is, not that he is simply unable to define it very well, like the rest of us have been floundering about with itt!
neeel, is 'happy' real? Is 'embarassed' real? Aren't these just simple labels we have given to complex psycho/bio/socio/chemical actions and responses? You don't need to understand any of those processes to experience the 'feelings' associated with the labels.
At the end of the day, isn't "really really really really really really like" just as good a description, with variations in how many "really"s each of us needs to label it love rather than like? What I think is much more interesting is why does "like to the nth degree of really's" (aka love!) make most of us do highly irrational things, at least when it takes the form of romantic love?
Let me add to this something that might be a little unpopular amongst the Christians here:
Imagine a boy is crazy in love with a girl, to the extent that he is obsessed with her. He follows her around all the time, everywhere she goes he needs to be there as well. He does every little thing she wants (or at least, that he thinks she wants). He thinks about her constantly, almost every action he does he thinks "I wonder if she would like this?". It is clearly an obsession.
I think most parents would be rather troubled by this, in fact this boy could well be emotionally unstable and considered a potential psych risk. This level of obsession would almost universally be seen as a negative relationship, and it is unhealthy for the boy.
Now for the switch (I expect you know what is coming): what if instead of being obsessed with a girl, you are now talking about his "relationship with Jesus"? Nothing else needs to change in the description. In fact, it could be made to sound
much worse. Is this just as unhealthy? Or is this in fact a scriptural requirement for Christianity? (and btw, I don't mean to imply that every Christian feels that way, but it is
probably common enough to be something that not only fundamentalists behave that way).