Quote:
Originally Posted by ganstaman
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Same-se...ame-sex_unions
In Hawaii 2010, a civil union bill was vetoed. In Minnesota 2010, a domestic partnership bill was vetoed. In Colorado 2006, a voter referendum voted down domestic partnership. In Maryland 2005, domestic partnership was vetoed. In California 1994 and 1998 and 1999, domestic partnership was vetoed. These are just the bills that made it through both houses (and the voter referendum). There were also bills that failed to make it that far due to losing the vote in the upper or lower house: Utah 2005 and New Mexico 2009. And there are also bills like the Colorado one that died for other reasons.
A number of states have made constitutional amendments to ban same sex marriages. Only some of these have also included a constitutional ban on the civil unions as well.
This isn't just a procedural issue like you claim Colorado 2012 to be. A significant number of people, including those in the government, are in opposition of granting even just civil unions to gay couples. You think that calling it a civil union instead of marriage is a trick we can use to avoid the religious aspect, but then why are we still running into such opposition?
Well, I would say that vetoes are part of the process, but whatever.
The missing component is a sane conversation about the role of marriages with respect to the government. In all of these instances, civil unions are still "the other." The question has been "Do we give something to these other people?" It does not address the underlying issue that I've been raising (government is still involved with marriage).
Quote:
How long are you willing to wait for your idea to take hold before gay couples can be seen and treated as equals?
Given that the conversation about gay marriage has only been a mainstream conversation for 30-40* years... probably another 20-30 years. I know that there is a sense of extreme urgency for a lot of people. And for a generation that has only understood things changing at increasing speeds (20 years ago, nobody was on the internet. 15 years ago, almost nobody had a cell phone, 10 years ago, cell phones were still JUST phones...), it's hard to imagine sometimes that things sometimes things need to take time.
*I'm being generous. I think it's much closer to the 20-30 year range.
But what we're talking about here is a sharp discontinuity in the concept of "family" (at least in the US). We're *BARELY* into the second generation of adults after the concept of no-fault divorces (early 1970s?), which dramatically shifted the structure of familial responsibility.
The same type of statement can be said about the concept of "sexual identity." That is, the strong tie of one's sense of identity as being related to sexual attraction is a relatively recent phenomenon. (This is NOT to say that same sex attraction is new, but that the strong identification of it as a central part of identity is new.)
And in the bigger picture, tax breaks on inheritance and collecting other people's pensions really isn't *THAT* important (edit: nor is being a Boy Scout). Yes, it's unfair right now. Lots of things are unfair. Women and minorities are still fighting wage gaps. That's unfair. The rich are still getting richer and the poor are still getting poorer. That's unfair. And this doesn't even look outside of the US for problems. Clean water access is an issue, as are finding sustainable farming practices is many regions.
So... I'm not just worked up over this like it's the end of the world if it doesn't happen RIGHT NOW.
Last edited by Aaron W.; 07-28-2012 at 03:00 AM.