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Originally Posted by Budhud
1: Pretty much nobody is only going to keep their religious beliefs to themselves at very least they are going to brainwash their children.
Totally agree with this. I was raised Christian and was the allstar kid at church for all things Christianity. Once I started thinking on my own towards the end of high school and beginning of college, I was annoyed a lot at my parents for it all. Not that they were a-holes, but they never gave me a chance to make up my own mind, and they painted the world in Christian-defined good/evil stereotypes.
Granted I turned out differently than you. After I went through the rejection phase, I started exploring on my own, and ended up back in Christianity, but this time of my own volition.
And now I'm a father of two kids (oldest is only 4). My God, what a struggle. Because as a Christian, I definitely believe that there are eternal consequences to how my kids choose their philosophical/religious/whatever lifestyle. But I
definitely want them to have a reasonable choice, and not brainwash them towards what I believe is the correct choice. Based on my experience with my parents, I know I'll err on the opposite side of exposing them to all kinds of options.
But wow, it's a crazy journey as a parent. Your kids basically see you as the source of all truth. So you can easily bias them towards Christianity. You can easily bias them towards anti-theism. It's a sickening amount of responsibility.
Had this awkward exchange with my 4 year old a few days back:
him: How sick is Great-grandpa Joe?
me: He's really really sick. He's probably going to die in the next few days.
him: Why is he going to die?
me: Well, that's what happens to really really old people. When you get too old, you die.
him: Oh. And that happens to bad people too.
me:
Well, no, just because you're bad doesn't mean you will die.
him: Like Pharaoh. He was really bad, and then he got died in the water.
me: .... uhhh....
(at this point you realize how quickly kids latch on to the stories you read to them.)
Another similar convo the next day:
him: What happens to Great-grandpa Joe after he dies?
me: Well, I don't know. That's up to God. Maybe he will go to heaven then.
him: So he will come back to life again?
me: Yeah, I guess you could say that.
him: So when he comes back to life, he will be a baby again!
me: .... uhhh.... well, no. Uhhhh... we can talk about this later.
Dammit, parenting is hard enough just with the responsibility of keeping kids alive and healthy and all that. No one prepared me for the responsibility of developing their minds/life outlooks.