I think Dr. Stephen E. Jones is right. He says:
"Whomever the Father has given to Christ will come to Him. In other words, those who decide to come to Christ by their own “free will” are the people whom the Father has given Him already. There is Someone behind the scenes Who has called these people, and therefore their response is, “I think I want to come to Christ.” They think it is all by their own free will, but yet God has played a hidden role in the background, choosing to remain anonymous.
God has chosen them, so they will in turn choose God seemingly of their own free will. God preserves this illusion of free will, and this gives us the idea that we all have decided our own course. We hold this illusion of free will in our immaturity. Once we begin to understand who God is, and see His sovereignty and His glory and understand that He really is the Sovereign of the universe, then we begin to see that our will is merely a response to His will. The more we come to know Him, the more sovereign He seems to become, and the less free our will seems to be."
Christ said:
John 12:32
32 And I, if I be lifted up from the earth, will draw
all men unto me.
Jones' essay: "Freewill Versus Ownership":
http://www.gods-kingdom-ministries.o...klet.cfm?PID=7
Many mature Christians emphasize the concept of "surrender". It the surrender of the human will to God's. Its only the philosophy that confuses everybody. Somethings are meant to be just done not intellectualized...Intellectualizing makes everything hard because you can't let go until you have crossed every "t" and dotted every dot.