I posted this here because i need to discuss this with people who have backrounds with religion. Any religion backround is good for me, but I am coming from a christian household (and still hold my faith true) and so does she.
I play poker for a living. It is my only source of income, and it is the most amount of money I can make for the time at this point in my life. It is going to stay that way AT LEAST till the end of college (sophomore right now.)
Me and her were talking today and she was mad at me today because I skipped dinner with her and my cousin and friend to finish a tournament i was running deep in (didn't place that well fwiw lol).
She doesnt believe that poker is a legitimate job and that it's not gauranteed income. I think it speaks for itself, ill post up the convo here.
lol so whats bothering you?
[Kaitlyn]
8:08pm
you and poker. haha
[You]
8:08pm
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[Kaitlyn]
8:11pm
okay its just annoying how you couldnt come down to dinner. like it just feels like poker always takes up sooo much time. like you friends were here and you started playing which kinda suprised me. even though dan left, andrew was still there right? and like even now i have to wait for you to finish just to hang out which you said earlier we could do. but now its questionable if we even will because of the poker your playing
i dont mean to make you feel bad and i feel like a bitch but i just needed to say something
[You]
8:14pm
your not abitch for speaking up babe ok? im your bf you should tell me if somethings bothering you like that, so dont feel bad. (and i knew you were mad! lol)
[Kaitlyn]
8:15pm
haha i'm not to discrete
[You]
8:20pm
but in regards to poker, its my job. If i was working any other job there wouldnt even be a chance for us to hang out tonight (unless i got the night off or something). Earlier you told me you were going to the library to study and i thought you would be there till late (like around 9ish or w.e). Dan ended up hangin out with that girl which i assumed he would be with for a few hours then would go home, (plus he said he was gunna stay to watch the game and i was gunna watch/play poker during the game anyways-and probably order in from dominos). I
was talking to andrew, and all he wanted to do was watch tv while dan was with the girl which is what he did. Plus we were still having a good time while i was playing so i thought itd be fine. and then, its sunday. sunday's my biggest day for poker, and every sunday my hourly is much greater than on any other day so its costing me alot to not play. Add that to i havent played all week. (like at all) i was just trying to put in a short session but then i registered in a bigger tournament and it turned out to be a ddeep run which im forced to stay
i normally play cash games which i can play for however long i want, but that one tournament messed up the session or whatever
what im tryin to say besides all this is that: poker is my job. its what i do for an income, and i need an income in order to live off of. its also more money than i could ever be making at ANY other job and normally has the convenience so i can play or do w.e wenever
[Kaitlyn ]
8:25pm
okay. i get what youre saying. but i dont think its a "job". i told you that when you first told me you played it
like why does it cost you not to play? you lose money when you dont play? thats not the same thing as a job- you only make money in a job, you dont lose it
[You]
8:27pm
well let me say that its costing me when i dont play because im missing out on money i could be earning. its equivalent to like not showing up to work..
and it IS a job.
its something i do in order to make an income off of
is that not a job?
[Kaitlyn]
8:29pm
well then our not losing money. your just not making it. theres a big difference
i dont really see it as a job no...
[You]
8:30pm
not necessarily, the time i dont play i would be making money..so thats costing me money its called oppurtunity cost
how is it not a job though?
[Kaitlyn ]
8:33pm
because gambling isn't secure or dependable. you have to lose money in order to make money. with a job you have a guaranteed set income
[You]
8:34pm
babe...im shocked right now
[Kaitlyn]
8:35pm
why
[You]
8:38pm
first of all, forget everything youve ever been told or "taught" from your parents about gambling. DO NOT associate poker with any other form of gambling. because it is a complete OPPOSITE of every other gambling game out there.
[Kaitlyn]
8:40pm
how is poker not gambling then?
[You]
8:40pm
poker is gambling.
[Kaitlyn ]
8:40pm
huh?
[You]
8:40pm
but the difference with poker and all the other gambling games like black jack and things like that is:
[Kaitlyn ]
8:40pm
then what are you saying
[You]
8:40pm
poker is a game of SKILL
[Kaitlyn]
8:44pm
i dont really know what to say i dont wanna fight with you anymore
my only point was that in my opinion playing poker just doesnt seem like a job if more like a hobby or something that people would do to earn extra cash, but i know that its not that to you so i'm sorry
[You]
8:47pm
babe im so frustrated, but i WANT to talk about this
im not gunna leave this hangin over my head forever
poker is LEGALLY a game of skill like set in stone, people have done research and have Proved it to be a game of skill
so giving that, i have more skill in this game than the people who i play with.
therefore thats gauranteed money. how is it not?
[Kaitlyn ]
8:51pm
in the short term it isnt but i guess in the long term it is. but jake wheather its a skill or not its still gambling right?
[You]
8:53pm
why does it matter that it is gambling? and in regards to short term, it doesnt matter. I'm putting myself in profitable situations which DO show profit and i have PROVEN it to show profit. So the short term long term thign doesnt matter.
[Kaitlyn ]
8:53pm
okay i found this
No servant can serve two masters, for either he will hate the one and love the other, or he will be devoted to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve God and money.” Luke 16:13
now i know that this is referring to gambling
so i think that this is saying that you cant get too caught up in it or else it will be your "master". if you give playing poker the title of a job then that is worshiping it too much
in my opinion
[You]
8:57pm
babe
you are completely mis interpretting that
[Kaitlyn]
8:57pm
how
[You]
8:57pm
whats the difference if i were a pro baseball player or just worked in "the office" from 9-5
?
[Kaitlyn]
8:59pm
wait no how am i misinterpreting that verse
[You]
9:09pm
the verse is saying if you let money control you then you are not walking with god.
money isnt controlling me babe.
I posted the entire thing without editing it (except for last names).
Am i out of line at all? Please comment if you think so.
So where do i go from here? how can i explain to her that it is a reputable source of income with out her getting "afraid" like im some degen? Its the most frustrating thing in the world.