You partied with Beau? Was he still a zombie? And he didn't penetrate you, afayk?

But you don't need to be in a romantic relationship to have sex & some people have other systems, including self-reliance, for comfort & support.

But, in this case, we're talking about said things provided through a relationship, JamMaster3

Still in agreement regardless.

I thought we were talking about how these things aren't necessary to everyone & therefore if this woman doesn't want to be tied down unless its for marriage, that's ok?

Or at least I am. I might have glossed over some stuff that looked a bit emo & be out of the loop of what this conversation is actually about...

Damn, honestly we can go either way with this one.

There are some little bits we can glean but we do have to make some assumptions either way. You took it one route, I took the other, now we're here...


...still not dating this woman

Looking for a little affirmation, seeking warmth wherever they can find it (cause it gets bloody cold in Wiscondescension).

Me neither, but I have a weird thing about people I'm dating not dating other people.

Edited for keeping it real.

Both could select non-exclusivity throughout the "dating phase", then, switch to more traditional arrangements, once matrimonial milestones were achieved and all the side booty has been jettisoned.

This, pretty much.

arrrrrr matey I had a hearty lol

Hmmm, I really don't know where I fall on this one.

At this point, I don't see myself jumping through a bunch of gf hoops. I also don't really want to have to worry about someone else's business without love and commitment.

I think this woman's take is refreshing for reasons that have very little to do with non-monogamous relationships.

It would be weird to date for very long without sex, and relationship exclusivity early on seems like people who are more in love with the idea of marriage (or ownership) than the actual person...because how could you really know someone well enough to commit that quickly?

Idk, I'm mostly playing Devil's advocate here, I think. Not sure about the real world application of this strategy.

The morning after my 1st date with my wife I cancelled my POF account & have hung out with her pretty much every day since, including asking her out at the end of our 3rd date.

We moved in together like 2 months later. Sometimes you just know?

It's very difficult to sell a cow without sampling the milk. So if she doesn't at least provide some of the milk up front, then what is the point of dating.

Someone's supposed to just go to the farmers house and say I want a cow, then the farmer decides how much milk comes with the cow? Seems rigged.

If on the other hand she does give milk samples, but gives them to multiple people... well that's what we wisconsonians refer to as a milkake. Everyone has fun, but don't no one want to take the cow home afterwards.

I think it's about timing, short term it's a good strategy for dating. Building long term relationships seems difficult, sooner or later the mentality has to change.

I lol'd...but I think avoiding someone who feels like the sanctity of my vagina is my defining characteristic, would be an overall win.

Also, I am starting to wonder about the other side...if a woman said she hadn't had sex in (time frame) it would be weird.

Yeah, but the rest of us are just mortals.

Plus, much as I might like and want family, marriage, commitment...there are only so many times you can be bad at it before you have to earnestly consider the alternatives.

It's real easy to determine who's only interested in your vagina so that's kinda beside the point regardless. What we really wanna know is what kind of cow you are, Kristy.

Yeah, if this one had been half as bad of a choice as my 1st one, I definitely was stopping @ 2.

This one was a very good choice, so if something were to go horribly wrong for no apparent reason, I would be comfortable trying a 3rd eventually.

Happy Memorial Day omgers

Nice.

Jealous.

slwo pony

modern men like AF have become very feminine and want some deep emotional special unique connection. if a pretty lady offered me a casual sexual relationship as described above i would snap accept. teamwork between the suitors should take the pressure off us all, leading to more free time and spending money for everyone

I would be offended if I didn't know you were joking.

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I guess I read her statement that exclusive means they get sex, so dating for her is only a sexless matching game. When she thinks they have enough stuff to take half, then she snap married them to get laid.

Maybe I misinterpreted the post.

The post was not explicit in what you do or do not get, it was explicit in what you don't get but only in reference to the exclusivity. We can't draw logical bridges past that and be 100% error-free.

Basically SA just wants to get the dingy out of the dock and in the water with the other dingy

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