"According to Dr. Aldo Civico, “Rapport is the root of effective communication.” The key to building this type of rapport is the strategy of “matching and mirroring” which, he says, is “the skill of assuming someone else’s style of behavior to create rapport.”
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Therefore, "socializing" is different with each person or group of people one is dealing with at a particular moment and context. When you are interacting with a very social person, you match and mirror (and therefore gain rapport and socialize) with him by matching his level of enthusiasm and talkativeness. If you are interacting with a slow talker, you don't talk a mile a minute. Instead, you match his slower talking speed and possibly lower voice tone.
How does this translate to "socializing" in poker? Well, if you're playing with talkative types like Negreanu and Matusow, you match and mirror them by matching their level of enthusiasm and emotional states.
And how does one socialize with boring nits? Well, you gain rapport with them by matching and mirroring their "boringness". You may want to match their low level of talkativeness. You want to mirror their tired postures and even deeper and slower breathing rates. Coach El Diesel understands this area of social intelligence. When people here have criticized him for being "anti-social" he may have just been in a table of nits where the optimal way of socializing was to mirror and match nit breathing, nit voice tone, nit talking speed, nit enthusiasm, and nit body language.
"Socializing" is much more than just smiling and being talkative. It is an aspect of social intelligence that is more complex than that. Coach El Diesel clearly has deep understanding of this aspect communication. His level of social intelligence is certainly high, or at least, above average.
Last edited by Reggie Steer; 11-04-2022 at 01:51 PM.