Someone wanna check out Valkyrie next weekend? A tinder girl said she will get me and anyone I bring on the guest list so no entrance fee if she's telling the truth.

I might join you if im not too busy, guest list is legit

Cool, maybe bkkyolo will come too, idk

Did my "crush" just friendzone me before our 2nd date? Lol... What does this mean from a 18 year old Filipina? Please advise how to act on the 2nd date, I actually want a LTR with her

This is a perfect opportunity for k2dante to post a mugshot on here and get some filipina insight on his looks and disposition from the ops girlfriend . Maybe even full disclosure on whats been written on them notes all these years

no she never.

Pretty sure that in this case she means FWB. Doesn't want you developing feelings for her rn.

or it hasnt even been a second date and the women doesnt want to rush into anything?

Sop analyzing everything as if you want it to turn into a LTR. just chill have fun and it will happen

thats all my relationship advice i can have for you

edit: oh sry misread what u said ^

Should've changed the wallpaper.

wtf with all the "hahaha"s and emoticons?
if you wanna bang her, treat her like a girl, not as a friend
then after getting deep in her sugar walls, you can think about LTRing

she must be hot to make you fall for her this quick

thats how you talk to asian girls, dudes only been there a month and already has like B+ asian texting game, well done

She's the vigin one so I'm sure she doesn't want FWB.

I guess that's it cuz she's never had a bf and always says she wants to wait to avoid heartbreak and focus on her studies (not just to me but to anyone and even posts about it on fb). But what can I do now? Keep the 2nd and maybe even 3rd date friendly without even going for the kiss? She obviously won't show any initiative from her own side, she's way too shy and now in those screens made very clear she wants to be friends...

K2d said it... In that sample I said haha in every message, that's too much but one "haha" or emoji in 50% of messages is standard... Maybe even more like 2/3 of messages. That's just how most girls text here, I'm only adapting to them.

First I wanna say that I respect your freedom to act however you want to girls and form your own opinion of the subject. Both you guys, k2d and Info are pioneers in Asia for all of us.

But do girls in asia not have estrogen? Cause even feminine gay dudes like to be lead by a strong man.

https://www.buzzfeed.com/eugeneyang/...MnZ#.sxdDjGn2R
• Contemporary Filipino masculinity is a result of mixing local attitudes with those of Spanish and U.S. colonization.
• In traditional Filipino masculinity, important qualities are supporting the family, sexual virility, and being in control.

You guys are deluding yourselves. Yeah, being nice gets you rejected less, but you don't get the girls to REALLY be into you, and end up "going out as friends" or giving them money to "help money"

Anyway, wish you luck with all the cuties

But you can be strong and assertive and also use the Haha's and emoijis, if you do it in the right way.

I understand it's really hard to believe because western girls would insta friendzone you or stop contact all together if you were doing a bunch of Haha's and emojis, but in Asia they really are gold, no joke. They aren't close to being a negative and with most Asian girls they'll increase your chances, if anything. Especially with 18 year old shy virgin ones.

There may be problems with the approach Infoshove is taking, but it isn't with the Haha's and the emoijis, he should definitely keep doing that. Although he doesn't need to use them in literally every single sentence, cutting back a bit would probably be a good idea.

Filipinas are very chatty and it's hard to build rapport if you have completely different conversation styles or humor. It's normal to laugh about the smallest things here. I'm curious how Filipino guys text but I wouldn't be surprised if even Alpha Filipinos act this silly way when flirting with a girl.

Hahaha pa more imo.

I doubt she is a 18 year old virgin and talking to foreigners, makes no sense

I know her from Tinder which makes even less sense given that she says she wants to wait with sex and relationships. But do girls ever make sense, let alone Asians? My guess would be she's curious talking to guys without really knowing what she wants.

Anyway I still need advice how to act on our 2nd date which is today at a mall if I do go (feeling a bit sick). How do I proceed after that warning and her saying let us be friends? Should I keep it casual? How long?

I don't think that she means it, she's testing you imo.

if by 'going out as friends' you mean them coming to your place and banging the first time whats the problem?

as a foreigner all you need to do is make them feel comfortable being around you, nothing does that like being silly

why? plenty of virgins on dating sites.... aka timewasters

Yeah but this girl met him fairly quickly, no way she is a virgin, in any case I expect u will have sex on that 2nd date, she seems like an attention whore most of all, this part is quite telling.
"says she wants to wait to avoid heartbreak and focus on her studies (not just to me but to anyone and even posts about it on fb)"

What they say is usually almost completely meaningless, like they'll act conservative but then have sex on day one

Best approach is to not put too much thought or care into what they say just lots of smileys and hahas, keep the mood light get them in your room somehow and bang

If you ever find yourself overly invested in what one girl is saying or doing then you're not talking to enough girls, expand your rotation so you don't have time to care.

Should always have backup options in case one flakes, or vanishes, ideally you have so many that you almost forget some exist then come across them as you're scrolling through your contacts and just send oh hey kumusta :P with a pic of what you're eating to start things up again

Don't get a serious girlfriend in your first 6mos in asia or until you've banged a few dozen girls, whichever comes first.

I'd just put in 5 mins a week of small talk with the 18yo until she's a bit older. Plus you backing off a bit will make her want to earn your attention again plus make her think you're a good guy who wasn't just after sex. Little does she know you were just banging other chicks in the meantime as research into how much they lie and play games

dont really get that post ^.

why not just ask him what he wants then help him on what the best approach is for him? Some people dont like 5 min connection with people every week. some do.


if you want to carry on speaking and being overly invested in this girl because you enjoy and like it. then carry on. If you wana bang 100girls in 3 months then chat to more. If you aint all that bothered about random hookups then carry on. But just keep it light and friendly and not too serious about liking each other etc :P

only thing i would say, thinking about LTR when you might not even be able to live here for 4 months or whatever sucks for both you and the women. So keep that in mind

ive met plenty of virgins very quickly, still remember one that came straight to my apartment the first day we chatted on DIA, she lived nearby and walked over

we were watching a movie on the couch and i suggested we go into the bedroom where the aircon was and she said ok, a few minutes later i kissed her, had a full blown panic attack and needed like 5 minutes to get her breathing under control

afterwards she told me she had never kissed a guy before and wasnt expecting it at all, we had a nice little talk about not going to guys places if you are scared of a kiss

not saying that girl is or isnt a virgin, just saying its very possible

couldn't think of a better man to provide her with her first kiss