Morbid braindump:
The last couple of days feel like rock bottom. Had about a week where we were getting some optimism and big Mo, then we started to get some more falling and emergencies. She thinks she's getting weaker and less coordinated all over, and observation seems to back that up. Now her speech and swallowing ability are alternating between difficult and non-functional. Actually, she cannot tell when her speech is giberish because it all sounds the same to her. It's up to me to tell her, and get her to repeat. Unfortunately, after it often takes several minutes to establish a few sentences, it turns out what she was trying to say was something stupid or horrible or annoying. Holliday's not handling this well, especially when coupled with her morbidly down demeanor complete with the posture of a half-deflated snowman balloon. She wants to help and do things and keep moving, but increasingly just makes things worse by dropping stuff, falling, etc. I think it actually is more important that she keep trying than to actually be productive--but, you know, some stuff does need to get done, too. Whatever I'm doing I have to be ready to drop it and run, literally, when I hear a thud or yell. Sometimes I think I'm being paranoid or going crazy because I faintly think I hear her calling for me. Time after time, nope not crazy; She had somehow fallen and was stuck face down on the floor only able to speak slightly louder than a whisper calling for help. Sometimes it was just my imagination. Friday night the dog managed to push some boxes out of the way to get into the blocked off living room which I've set up as a painting station, stepped into some black paint and tracked it around the house and then started getting freaked out (which may have been related to licking the paint off his paw). I was out at HW store and wife was crushed that she couldn't take care of him. She called me with the message, "Emergen--HELP! HELP!"...and was unable to say any more. In such a situation, the anxiety meds, they do nothing. Thankfully this town doesn't have cameras at the stoplights, but my personalized license plate ("G0FUSLF") does mean I have to stay alert for drivers who feel they have a score to settle with me after things like that. I took care of the dog, but not without a rather unseemly blowup an hour in when the dog's freaking and the wife started to join in and it was apparant the evening would involve doing nothing but incredibly stilted converssation about random new things wife has creatively come up with to worry about;
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Dog was fine after a couple of hours. Wife had a nasty fall that evening which I could only watch as I held the dog, and another the next morning which I heard start and ran just in time to see her falling back and smacking her head against a window on the way down. Probably would have broken the glass had she not hit right along one of those dividers between the panes. She thinks she's fine from the fall and refuses to use a wheelchair, and I am left with a faint and buzzing sensation for several hours afterward. Anyway the whole day just went on like this, until an extended sequence of nonsensical speech, choking on soup, and drooling unawares just became overwhelming. Cried uncontrollably for about an hour while wife tried to talk to me. I couldn't understand a word, not a word, at the time, which did not help to stop the crying.
It's just too much and too brutal and cruel. She's worked so hard was never happy with her physical condition over the last year, but now she's fondly looking back on those times and wishing she was that well again. I am struck by the thought that she could be dying here, along with my geriatric dog with kidney failure, and even the younger dog is pretty old now. They could all be gone soon and I'll be all alone, wondering what happened to my beautiful loving family. There's nothing I can do to help except try to be supportive and positive, yet I just seem to get angry and frustrated.
But anyway that was yesterday. Today I have to get moving again. Woke up with a headache that I'm pretty sure would kill 10 ordinary men, which I'll have to remember as a very good reason to not go crying my head off right before bed again. She's been exercising 2x per day on the bike, electrolysis for a couple of days, and we've been doing 'spotted' walking around the new property. Today we want to work on "squats" using a chair since she's been more catapulting herself into seats rather than gently lowering herself.