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Why?

(I'm assuming sustainability? I suppose if you have little self control...)


If you say so. I ate a certain way for 20 years while competing, and upon deciding to retire it took me just a few months to lose 40-50lbs. Let's not pretend like it's harder than it is. You either want something bad enough, or you don't.

How starving were you this morning after a 255 cal dinner last night?

People always come around with there success stories but we have never had an uberfat be successful in this forum. MLYLT is our last great hope.

People might point to you or rusty brooks or BTM or even myself. I know rusty lost 80 lbs. But hey let's get this straight, they didn't do it around here. I did but 25lbs don't count. I am talking about 50+ pounds and logged it and kept it off.

Not one single success story. What a facking failure we have all been. And the reason is this powerful combination of habit and addiction. We don't know how to beat it when it has been ingrained into someone for a lifetime. All these uberfats from the tv shows, gain it back.

Look g4s, if you have solved it you can become very rich. I know I have solved it, i believe all uberfats should eat 3 cans of tuna for breakfast. Plain. There i have solved obesity. Unfortunately, I cannot force people to eat three cans of tuna for breakfast. Even these hungry uberfats can't and won't eat it.

At what point is "kept it off" qualified?

I legit think wildabeest had it but died or something bad happened to not even log in again after that password fiasco here.

Good one bro. I didn't even write an obituary for him because he didn't even last a year from account creation. Loltastic.

He was gone after the wedding anyways.

Dids lost 150ish(?) pounds, the last 60 after he started a H&F log (tracking lifts, not calories) and kept most of it off.

Not only is this unhealthy, it can be dangerous.


The solution is to address the person's underlying psychological reasons for chronically overeating in order to rationally address the impulse when it occurs and thus control the impulse.

Just taking a wild stab in the dark, but I wouldn't be surprised if uberfats, as you call them, have a history of having been given ice cream, cake, candy, happy meals, etc. by their parents to cheer them up when something was wrong as a kid. Even if the kid didn't become obese until adulthood, this programming of binging on crap food as an adolescent to make one feel better may be subconsciously triggered later on in life to escape problems. Comfort food, right?


If we're talking strictly food based, then the solution is to eat real food and exercise daily. People will debate me on what real food is, and we can discuss whether some of the chemicals below are soil fertilizers and soap additives used in food or vice-versa, but I think we can all agree real food is not the following and I don't see a downside in eliminating all of that **** from one's diet.

What about BTM? I'm not sure how you're defining uberfat, but the young Tinder King certainly appeared obese. He went from that to elite abs and his taste for cold bacon and hard-boiled eggs will probably keep him there.

Stop bringing up fake examples. If it didn't happen here, it doesn't count.

Does me losing 55 pounds and keeping it off count? Probably not?

You are facking 6'7" dude?!! That's like me losing 15.

God I wish I was better at communicating. I had a big misunderstanding with my boss where she basically told me to **** up and that i didn't want to do something. She was accusing me of not wanting to do something when I was trying to explain to her that it just wasn't logical to do it.

I was troubleshooting this pressure tester again. I emailed her boss to let him know what was up. He suggested that I change the flow meters out (which I did not think was the problem at all). I responded to him that changing the flowmeters was basically the most difficult thing to do, most likely wasn't the problem, and that i wanted to try some other things out first.
My boss came straight to my office and said "you not wanting to do that isn't going to fly" , so I started to explain to her that I thought the pressure regulator and valves were the problem and I didn't want to take apart two separate machines and trade out parts for something g I didn't feel was the problem until I looked at the regulator. She litterally said to me, "shut up and let me talk" and repeated that I couldn't not change the meters because I didn't want to. Well I went and adjusted the mother****ing pressure regulator and fixed the problem.

She knows absolutely nothing about machines or any type of equipment and automatically assumed I didn't want to do something because I didn't feel like it or something instead of assuming I was trying a logical approach to fix the problem.

How could I have communicated this better to make her understand?

I just sent her an email saying that I'm sorry for the miscommunication and I tried to explain my point of view again.

Maybe you just aren't a good fit.

Post your 3 emails, imo.

MLY,
You come off terribly in your own rendition of that story, so I can only imagine how badly you came off in reality.

Maybe so. I have had zero complaints from my boss and no problems communicating with her or anything until last Friday when she got onto me for being on my phone. It's my fault for being on my phone, but now I think she has in her head that I'm just trying to get out of work every chance I get.
I'm not trying to get out of work, I just like to work smart and efficient and logical. I'm going to troubleshoot the most basic and easiest things first before o tear apart a machine, this just makes sense to do. She jumps the gun a lot and tells me to do something before we even know there is a problem. I generally try to gather all the information first and then react and she has had a problem with me not doing exactly what she says right when she says to do it. She waste a lot of time trying to fix problems that turn out to not be problems at all. It's really frustrating. Now she has this perception of me because I was on my phone all the time and it feels like her perception is reinforced because we have very different ways of thinking and approaching problems. She thinks im trying to be lazy while I'm actually being efficient.

This

You should probably post this stuff in OOT because you know what's going to follow itt.

Anyway, you should consider the impact these sentences have when you say them to your superiors (particularly if they think you're a slacker):

"I responded to him that changing the flowmeters was basically the most difficult thing to do" and "I told her I didn't want to take apart two separate machines"

Can you please explain how im coming off bad and what I can do to change it?

She got pissed off enough to tell me to shut up. I think she should have never even came and talked to me and let me be to troubleshoot and fix the machine.

I need a job where I'm either alone and left alone to do my work or where I'm in charge like when I was a project engineer.

No you need to learn how to work with other people like every else on the planet

Inefficient orders are nothing to take a significant stand against. There are ways to tactfully suggest an alternate route, though it should always be done with due respect and deference, and frankly it doesn't sound like your relationship with your boss is in a place where you should be taking chances by showing any reluctance to follow orders at all.

Short of a situation where you're asked to do something unethical or immoral, say "okay" and do exactly what you're asked to do. It was unbelievably tone-deaf that you were still explaining your case in the last e-mail you sent her to apologize. The two of you are not peers who are working together to decide on a best course of action.

You basically told her boss to go **** off and you know better. Of course she got up in your grill.

For starters, when your boss is telling you to do something, maybe consider just doing it. If she's wrong, it's the company's time they're wasting, not yours. It kind of sounds like you're just annoyed that actually spending your time doing work (unnecessary or not) will cut into your phone time. That's the impression I would get if someone who spent 90% of their day doing nothing started complaining that doing something was a waste of time.

Also realize that as an employee who's seen as a slacker, who the boss is openly questioning whether you even belong there, who no one likes because you've been antisocial with your coworkers for months, who just annoyed everyone by bringing a 5-year-old to a professional meeting, you're maybe not someone's opinion who the boss is inclined to care about right now. You have to earn trust and respect. Given your current status with her, shut up and do what she wants you to do. It's not about specifically how you handled this situation, it's about not having the self-awareness to realize that the way you like to do things isn't what matters here. If you were a superstar employee whose opinion she's trusted for years, you're probably fine, but you're far from that and you have to behave accordingly.