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Originally Posted by Syndr0m
Am I an ass hole for suggesting my girlfriend she might need to consider therapy if we want to have the best shot at a future together, two months into the relationship?
I do not think this is an issue at all. Therapy is good man. Talking things through with people more openly and without fear of repercussions is a good way to open up.
Not the same relationship but me and my best friend spent years fighting and with each argument we staggered towards positive outcomes. Slowly, far too slowly, we started trusting each other with the deepest of thoughts that arose in the inner mind of our minds. The true self revealed.
I think the whole process could have been truncated with therapy. I know that just from writing about my work stuff I have started to feel a lot better.
my conclusion: If the therapy leads to more honesty at a faster pace, then go for it. Don't worry about the temporal thing. Time is an illusion. Causality is what is Universal. Tell her you are committed enough to bring it up because you care. It's causality. You met her and therefore as soon as you felt you needed more honesty (or whatever your wishes are) you suggested a solution instead of bringing up the problem again and again or even keeping it under wraps till your relationship was more mature because of some 'technicality' of temporal disposition. Time is nothing. All that matters is you met her and care enough to suggest that.
On the other hand...
So you don't know how she interprets it. The best you can do is communicate your intensions to her. Human communication is, ultimately, all about the expression and recognition of intentions and words are, after all, incredibly versatile things.
And that is where you have to make sure you deliver.