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Originally Posted by theBruiser500
Anyway, where does your point come from Henry? You are the person who has 20 years worth of studying done aren´t you?
I assume you mean of poker and not education although the answer would be yes regardless. That said, I have never read a poker book. My main source of income is sports betting and I have never read any of the material on the subject. I don't even post in the sports betting forum. I believe that to understand something and really be capable at it you have to understand it from first principles. My issues with books are that they are often simply descriptive. They tell people what to do which is fine if you are doing something once or twice but if something is important the only way to master it is to start from first principles. I feel the same way about books on investing as well.
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Anyway, it is all almost besides the point here. You are saying Pick up has to be gotten with experience. What PUA is at its best, is something that helps people to get experience. If someone is hopeless and depressed and clueless, what are they going to do? Fight back? Lol, obviously not. They lie down and give up, or take whatever scraps they can get.
That is assuming the scraps don't do more harm. After spending a decent amount of time on that site today including some of the so called "Masters" section I can say with certainty that reading that site will leave someone who is seeking to improve themselves worse off. Now maybe that site is just a bad example but I'm working from what I have been provided.
What I would do if I was young and having problems is just think about it critically. Look at failures and success both mine and of people I observe and see if I can extrapolate what works and what doesn't. Maybe seek advice from friends who I know are successful and who I trust. Also become friends with girls. I have more female friends than male friends and that is really helpful.
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However, there is no way to get around that since all relationships include manipulation one way or another. Maybe we dont know we are manipulating some of the times, and if you want to say since it was unintentional it wasn´t manipulation, that is fine with me. However, it is obvious that action A by me will get response A from a girl or guy, and action B by me will get response B from a girl or guy.
That is an interesting way of looking at things. It pretty much reduces all behaviour to a manipulation. I see it somewhat similar to the there is no such thing as an altruistic act argument in that at some level it is true but not really at a meaningful level. I'm too tired to pursue it at the moment but I don't think I see all acts as a form of manipulation.
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how many people that you meet are 100% good people moral and socially? No one ACTUALLY IS like that, we are all ****ed up.
I wouldn't disagree with this but I'm not sure how it relates. Yes most people are pretty ****ty. It is depressing if you think about it too long so best not to. Given the size of the population though you only need a small percentage of them to be good people. Also as long as you know where you stand and what people are like you don't need to limit yourself to good people if the goal is just entertainment.
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You talked about mimicking people who are good. Sure, and what if someone doesnt have friends who are good at picking up girls? What´s that you say? He should make friends who are good at picking up girls? Well that is kind of what PUA is.
The problem is if you don't have the ability to be successful with women how can you judge if the people you meet via PUA do? I was looking at the Toronto section of that site. Not much activity but I looked at the ten or so topics and these guys were horrible. They are planning an outing for Fashion Week and I was actually tempted to ask if I could come observe on the false pretence of wanting to learn just to see how much of a train wreck it would be.
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Oh really, so how do you recommend people gain that experience?
Baby steps if they are not ready to do anything radical. If they are willing to commit then a complete recreation is a good idea. Something like moving away for university is perfect but if that is not possible just moving or changing scenes so that you are a complete new person. Take six months before that to workout, get a wardrobe, take care of your skin, figure out what interests you so that you have interesting things to be involved in. Then when you start off you really still don't have confidence but you have been building up to this so you just commit and do it.
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What to do if you don't have friends seemed to be the gist of the last few paragraphs. My answer is to go out alone. When I moved I knew no one so I was basically for all intensive purposes in the same boat. I just went to the same small group of bars for a few nights. As long as you are nice, friendly and appear approachable you'll meet people. Tip well and be friendly to the staff -- you don't want to make bar staff feel stalked but at the same time if they initiate and you can get an in to the bar staff scene you are set for friends as they all know each other and in turn they know everyone who goes out.
We are guys which makes it so much easier than girls to go out alone and just meet people. Drink at the bar near a TV when there is sports on. You'll be talking to the guys around you pretty quickly.