Okay so I have to post this. I was down the Jersey Shore this weekend. Started drinking early Saturday and we find ourselves to our last bar around 11:30-midnight.
My friends start talking to this group of girls. I glance over there since they are about 15feet away and notice that my one friend is talking to this girl I met at a party back in December 2009 and was periodically talking with at that time for about 2 weeks via text. We never failed to meet up, mostly because she wasn't flexible. Here's where it began. I'm highly attracted to this girl and her good friend is one of my best girl friends.
Henry gave me good advice here saying that she may have an interest in me but she doesn't want to make me a priority. I couldn't disagree with that analysis.
Back in March 2010 her other friend saw me at a party and said she was asking about me and said "she loves you!" That girl has a big mouth, is real gossipy so I didn't make anything of it. That was posted here. I didn't do anything in regards to below.
Anyway I play it cool and let my friend talk to her. I'm talking to people, having a good time, etc. Next thing I know I see her pointing at me and then coming up to me and she called me out on not say anything to her. I think this is positive.
We start talking, then dancing and she's all over me. We hang out (mostly dance) for the 2 hours before the bar closes and right before the night she basically initiates and makes out with me.
At this point my friends had left fully confident I was going to go home with her. I was, too. In fact their comments yesterday was pretty shocked that I didn't go back to her since they all saw how aggressive she was on the dance floor with me basically grinding on me, being really touchy and laughing a lot when we talked.
Anyway then her 4 girlfriends come up to her, whisk her away, she says something like "nice seeing you! see you never!" (that was weird...the see you never comment?" by the way this was said in front of her four friends that they all heard it) I guess it could be a joke but it didn't seem like one and we go our separate directions.
Anyway after her being aggressive with me, coming up to me, making out I get nowhere.
I texted her last night with saying good running into you+ inside joke+let me know when you're in the city since she comes periodically but lives about 90 minutes away. She didn't respond, which doesn't surprise me because this was consistent from her behavior before. She'd be flirty and cool in person, then have no desire to meet up with me. But from what I witnessed tonight she's interested when I'm in the same area as her. This goes back to Henry's priority comment. I'd like to consistently meet up more often and I don't know how to do that.
This isn't a sitaution where I can pick up a phone and set something up with firm plans due to us living not exactly close.
So, basically, any suggestions? There doesn't appear I can do anything. My likely feedback will be to move on, hope to run into her, and hopefully get further when I see her a month, 3 months, 6 months from now. Who knows when I'll see her though, maybe never, maybe when she has a boyfriend, maybe within a few weeks.
I know it's only one girl and there are many of them in my city but this girl is my #1 girl over the last year I've met. Looks wise she's the best and from our past talks personality wise, too.
I have a date on Wednesday with that other girl and I'm now completely indifferent about that because she pales in comparison looks wise and fun wise.
Positives are the fact that she was all over me, she kept coming back to me when I went to get a drink, bathroom, start brief convos and she made out with me.
Negatives are I didn't go home with her, the weird "see you never!" comment and her ignoring of my text yesterday which she didn't have to respond to but it would have been a positive sign if she did.
Felt like I should post since this came out of nowhere.