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Originally Posted by Thremp
Pumping buying temp on girls who're ******ed (fundamentalist Christians, frigid wimmenz, etc) will result in buyer's remorse (to use lots of PUA lingo, which I think is fairly efficient in this case). But this somewhat begs the questions of whether you'd want to have an optimal approach as a heuristic unless you were socially perceptive enough to pick up on this very quickly... which would then be a wtf are you doing talking to a prude?
Pumping buying temp is just more PUA-esque lingo for escalation. Physical/mental works best in combination. Get her to think happy thoughts, touch her, etc. Its essentially what you claim to do on every date. (Claim being I don't watch you on dates.) Buyer's remorse would be that she feels bad about something that happened: moving too quickly, your frame is too strong, you're too "smooth", whatever. For chicks who're somewhat nutso (Christians, frigid women, etc)... who cares? Do you really want to refine your game to this subset or modify your "standard" approach when you can't get a better read on the situation?
My best advice would be to quickly recognize chicks who don't poke and stop talking to them if you want to poke.
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Originally Posted by Mittens
Wait... what? I may need some remedial Dating/Relationship General Advice here. I'm all for waiting for the right moment to ask a girl back to your place, but is there really a reason to wait if she will come back?
I mean I've pretty much tried to drive a steady path of constantly escalating physical contact (light touching -> kissing -> foreplay -> sex) in every romantic interaction I have with a woman. I'm fine with stopping on one step if she seems reluctant to go further, but should I really be self-restraining here?
It has just never crossed my mind not to try to get as physical as possible with a girl who is willing (and I like obviously).
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I forgot to mention that she did say something about some "guy situation" when we were at my place. I told her at the time that she could explain if she wanted but I didn't care and the subject got dropped. Maybe she has a recent ex boyfriend or something, I dunno.
Anyways, is it worth calling her again? If so, what should I say?
I'd take Mandor's advice with a grain of salt. I think he has predilections that differ from the "standard" EDFer. Your approach is ******edly standard. (Which is an approach that is super underrated. Doing the same things repetitively should be a mainstay of your game.)
You handled the guy situation identically to how I typically handle it (and just did within the last couple weeks). I want to communicate that I: 1) Care about them 2) Don't care about the past 2a) Along with not caring about the past, not that I don't want to be a part of their lives, but that I'm not judging them for whatever. "You can talk about it if you want, but I'd rather talk about us." "Meh. The best way to get over an old love is to find a new love." "...Did I tell you about my last trip to Guam?" "I have to pee."
There probably should be some element of push/pull (Expressing displeasure over their unsavory behavior). But that is pretty contextual.
Obv to assuage your conscience. She might have just gotten back together with her ex (Did I mention this in a prior list of things girls do and why they stop talking?)