Met a girl at her work. Got her number. Called her and set up a date. We agree to meet at a coffee shop. Seemed to go well so we decided to go have dinner. Goes ok and she messages me ty and gn when I get home. Couple days later I call her and we meet again for coffee and sth to eat before she works. she basically is working 7 nights a week. We keep in touch after that. Then I didn't call her for a few days. So yesterday I call her, she answers basically 100% of the time fwiw. I ask her to hang out so we meet at a place for a couple hours and hang out before she go to work. We are watching a you tube of some singer. She says hes handsom like me. So then the bill comes and she insists on paying. I had paid everything prior. Keep in mind we are in asia and this girl is asian and her english is avg at best and it's a different culture. She says sth about somebody told her in that when friends go out in usa that sometimes they share who pays yada yada. Anyways I wasn't sure what to make of the comment but again this girl is kinda old school traditonal and Ive learned before not to try to interperate there meaning but I still didn't care for it.

Shes the whole package for sure and I def want to continue to see her but don't want to get friendzoned, if they even have that here. She has no more nights off until next month so the only thing we could do is hang out in the day again. I was thinking about calling her tomorrow and inviting her for lunch at my place. Or maybe I should just not call her until a week later and see when she has free time for a dinner date. Does it even matter? What's my play.

My hooker-radar is going ding-ding-ding right now.
More lunch? I'd find a way to move this forward. Preferably in the evening. If you must do lunch, ramp up the flirting IMO. Tell her she's pretty. Point out things about her you like. You are White God, handsome like the singer. Your compliments are warm gold threads running through her soul.

Good luck.

PingClown dropping some serious wisdom imo.

wait, what happened to Mittens? he always provided A+ advice. did i miss something?

How am I suppose to get someone out of my head?

The girl who used a crappy excuse on why she didn't want to see me again has not left my head since she told me.

I thought the date went great and we had chemistry but she obv she didn't. It's driving me nuts not being able to forget her and "get over her"

I think I'm just being immature and I'm not even sure if I like this girl but its driving me up the wall

Interbeed,

Apparently go out in the next 24 hours and get 2-3 numbers and bang one of them.

Any thoughts and advice is appreciated-

So I meet this girl in Vegas through mutual friends and we immediately hit it off and have a great weekend together. She lives a state away and over the next couple months I visit her about once a month and she comes out a couple times. Every time is amazing, we party hard, get along great and the sex is absolutely mindblowing. We never really make our relationship official as she was going back to school a little farther away but we did say we wanted to keep in contact.

She ends up coming to stay with me for New Years weekend and at this point I'm absolutely falling for this girl. Since she was moving further away I never really share these feelings with her. She goes back to school in January and since then we have talked every day. Again we never make anything official but we do talk about not really wanting to see other people. I'm the last person to want a LDR but with this girl I really thought it was worth trying. I plan a trip in March to go see her.

Fast forward to last week after talking with her on skype for a few hours we say goodnight. I get woken up by a phonecall from her a few hours later saying she slept with her ex (they broke up over a year ago) and that I should probably cancel my trip. I basically hang up on her and don't answer her calls for the next couple days. I'm ready to move on when I
decide to answer her call a few days later. She says she made a huge mistake when she was drunk and that she really wants me to still come out. She says she thinks we can be amazing together if I could see past this and that she wants to be together blah blah blah. I tell her I need some time to think and this is where I'm at today.

I really don't know how to feel. I initially felt betrayed and was done with her but after talking with her I'm really confused.

marlboro:

That sucks. People make mistakes. Only you can say if that's something you could ever get over. If you might be able to, then I'd suggest not throwing this away just yet and at least consider giving things another shot. But if you feel like you can never trust her again or based on your interactions with her feel like she betrayed you to a degree you can't get over, then as much as it sucks I think this is over. The fact that it's a long distance relationship where you are potentially really interested in this girl makes everything much tougher and complicated.

Cliffs: ****ty situation, sorry.

Inter,

Your situation is pretty standard. The only solutions are time and other girls.

Reef/El Diablo,

Good advice guys I appreciate it. I obviously can't be too mad as we were never official so that will definitely make it easier to look past. I think I'm gonna just go and make the best of it and have a blast. Bonus is she is in Hawaii so if nothing else I'll get some good surfing in..

went to a bday party with with a bunch of people. Was my friends bday she is a girl. She has some friends, one of who I think is real attractive. Wasn't sure if she was coming. She showed up. Not sure she likes me or not but I guess we were flirting a little or just socializing, whatever.No idea if she likes me or not. Anyways I get pretty drunk as did everyone and I have a girl I hang out with come meet me at the club. I could see the bday girl was a little surprised I had someone come join.

Anyways did I hurt, help or doesnt matter on trying to get with said girl?Because in my mind feel like I hurt future chances.

Wait, you're trying to hook up with a girl, and invited a different girl along?

yea, that bad huh? The girl I want to hook up was there.The party was at a club. Some other girl I hang out with came and met me there. Was propably a bad idea as this was the best chance Ive had to interact with this girl.Alcohol ftw.

Pretty much the worst idea other than calling her fat. Actually, even that's close.

worst idea as it was a good chance to hook up with the girl or worst idea becasue if she was interested at all she won't be because I brought another girl? I mean I am single and it's not like I was there with the girl I like or anything. She just happened to be in the group.

Worst as in it's probably gonna make things hard for you, especially if this girl doesn't know you that well or your friend. Any other girl coming around makes you look like a player, at least in my experience, regardless of if they are basically or your sister or one of the guys or anything similar.

yup, another rookie mistake fueled by alcohol.

_UM, when did you contact the other girl to come over?

If it is reasonable for party-girl to believe you had existing plans to meet the other girl, you should be fine. In this case i don't think you did much damage regarding hooking up with her in the future.

this was explained in those posts. he coudln't b/c she was always away.


exactly.

oh, and before somebody comments on the emergency room thing (just realized that may sound bad). i wasn't taking advantage of some random hurt girl or getting in somebody's business in the waiting room...i was the patient. i just happened to be there so often from street hockey getting stitched up that i finally asked out the nurse who had the saturday shift lol

She came late after 1am.Not sure why I even agreed to have her come there. Eh, anyways is what it is. I'll def swing the bat with party girl in the future.

Yea I don't talk to many girls at bars at all. I like talking to them at there work. Granted the hot ones are gettin hit on all the time but I have always found it more comfortable for me than other places. But I guess thats kinda standard.

couple updates. Got a date with this girl for tomorrow. But its the same ****. meet in the afternoon, have some coffee hang out for a bit and eat sth before she works.Guess ill just go ahead with it until next month when she has a free night for a real dinner.

Also this other girl I been hanging out with a little. Kinda funny really. So yesterday I see her during the day. Then in the evening I meet a few people for drinks. She works at martini bar which is at the park hyatt hotel and they have a cool happy hour, so we go there here and there. Anyways shes working. So after we go to one of the restaraunts there. They have this really awesome lemon tart. So after I bring her one over, tell her its really good and she will like it. she loves food. I didn't think it was a big deal, but she did seem embarassed and prolly wants to keep things on the DL at work. Whatever. Anyways today I called her, she answered and like hung up or disconnected or something. I call back no answer and no call back. Was it really that big a fkn deal to give someone a friggen dessert. Damn tarts are 10 bucks.

so I guess I overreacted. Girl wasnt mad about the cake lol. So anyways I m at where she work tonite with some firends. I leave my bike there and we go out. so about 245 am I get dropped off back at the parking garage by a girl. my phone rings its cake girl saying she wants to meet. so then she messages me where she is. I go there and call her she answers but I cant hear her. I move to where I can hear and now phone is off. my feeling is that she seen me getting dropped off by the other girl and called me to try and trap me or something. Idk no idea. 330 am and her phone is still off. Guess Im going to bed. Girls are crazy.

she just called me to say srry. Her phone died and she is home now. Guess it was coincidence she insta calls at the same time I getting dropped off at where she works by another girl. kinda crazy how much I always assume the worst. Gotta work on that. Use me as an example people.