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Gf did some dishes and was visibly upset because she knew I was thinking about leaving her. I took it as an act of good faith and we had a good conversation. She knows the apartment is a sty and I understand why it feels over whelming which is basically her anxiety. I had her write out a to do list of all the stuff we had to get done and it was like five items and she realized it wasn't that much stuff.
I'm going to work with her to make to do lists every day to help her organize her thoughts and deal with bring over overwhelmed and as long is there is improvement I'm fine.
good stuff...but this is likely temporary
. i lived w/ a girl who suffered from anxiety (for some reason i tend to find these girls all the time lol) and i couldn't leave her alone in the apartment for a night. i wasn't doing much traveling at the time but if i did, she'd have driven home (from RI to NY). if it was a weekday, i'm not sure what she'd have done. overall, her anxiety carried over to many other aspects (panic attacks, random fears etc.) so while you may have made progress on this battle line, others will almost surely present themselves.
anxiety is a big deal. you should be prepared for many other things like this that may or may not drive you nuts but where you'll have to be the calming voice. i've been that voice for the better part of my dating life and i came to terms with it a while ago. instead of changing myself though, i've looked to date less anxious people (without much success).
it seems the girl i met skiing is by far the least anxious and she actually texted me while i was skiing in utah this past weekend to apologize for being so busy, to tell me she had work thursday, but would love to go out friday.
i don't think you have the option of dating less anxious people so i guess instead, prepare to be that calming and understanding voice.