Disclaimer for all potential future posts: Everything I say is just my opinion
Originally Posted by JWhitt88
When you say a girl "needs a reason" to cheat on a guy give me a few of those reasons.
I'm assuming one is that he cheated on her. Another is that he's been working tons of hours and hasn't been able to spend much time with (is that even viable?)
I tend to not believe the "needs a reason" necessarily.
I think the problem here is that you are looking at the words "need a reason" the wrong way. Perhaps it's poor phrasing. What I think you have done is mistaken my saying "reason" to mean "sort of justifiable reason". Cheating is never justifiable.
Think of it this way. We can broaden "needs a reason" by saying that generally a girl will cheat on her boyfriend (Or vice versa) to shore up something that is missing in her current relationship. This could be a number of things. Some apt "reasons" imo:
- Sexual dissatisfaction
- A lack of communication on issues such as the above
- Her feelings towards him have changed
- The relationship is not emotionally intense enough for her (So she is creating intensity in the attention of others)
- Other frustrations/aggravations. eg. Past instances of cheating (This creates a psychological reward for cheating, which as an afterthought, is also often, and perhaps the main reason to cheat).
- Overwhelming stress
- Lack of emotional support
- Any combination of the above, typically speaking I'd imagine it'd be more than one, or a really serious one. Take your pick. Look at relationships that involve cheating- although I'm just kinda guessing my way through this post, something like this is typically the cause imo.
His post did not indicate any of the above, so I would assume she does not have much reason to cheat on him. However - Luciddream has a valid point... I'm not sure if I agree with it.
Instead of this "ok, sounds good. lemme know your schedule when you know it."
Say this "Ok, sounds good. I'll call you in a couple days".
As played, call her anyway imo
Unless you don't care, then whatever