Dating/Relationship General Advice Thread - Volume 10 --Spring 2012 Edition - Page 55 - EDF Forum

stinkypete · 05-24-2012, 01:00 PM

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Originally Posted by johnny 187

Reason: I'm 29, she's maybe 23.

if you're friendzoned it's cuz you're an idiot and think things like this matter.

also, if you're too old to date a girl, you're way too old to be friends with her.

Colin_Piddle · 05-24-2012, 05:38 PM

DcFir- your def not good looking bro its your personality that is getting you the girls.

Nothing to add at this point, this thread is so different to the other its not even funny.

DcifrThs · 05-24-2012, 05:56 PM

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Originally Posted by Colin_Piddle

DcFir- your def not good looking bro its your personality that is getting you the girls.

i can't detect sarcasm well so i'll assume you're serious.

based on that assumption:....uh..thanks? dick lol. seriously though, i would say i'm precisely "good looking" (i.e. slightly above avg in general...6..., which imo is good looking). i'm not hot or anything. i am told by the girls i'm with i'm very good looking but they're quite biased so i don't really put too much stock in their assessment.

my ex coming to visit from stl is definitely "hot" so i guess if you're flat out sure i'm not good looking then this is a compliment b/c my personality just rocks that much (though i don't think i have some ridiculously good personality either. i'm easy going and i guess easy to talk to).

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Nothing to add at this point, this thread is so different to the other its not even funny.

what other one? and expand? kinda curious about what this other thread is, what it contains (what forum? contents etc.), and what is different?

scrolls · 05-24-2012, 09:18 PM

I assumed he was referring to the SL dating thread? Idk.

DcifrThs · 05-24-2012, 09:54 PM

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Originally Posted by scrolls

I assumed he was referring to the SL dating thread? Idk.

woah...i dont go to student life. just ventured into that ridicularity and yea...that is some serious difference. to be expected though i guess.

DcifrThs · 05-24-2012, 11:00 PM

easy question. pretty sure answer is 'no' but im kinda curious.

i've been seeing this girl who's a friend of a pretty close friend. things were going great, then we kinda didn't see each other for 1.5-2weeks and saw each other during a rangers game (she was very cool about this, invited me over and was totally fine about me watching the game). she then 'got sick' (naseuous, felt warm, a bit feverish) and went to bed. i climbed in bed later.... but then she woke up to go to the gym...

that seemed a bit strange. obv she "felt better"

anyways, i've been trying to arrange a time to see her and she's really distant for the first time. says she'll call me on tuesday, never did. today we spoke and she said she had to go as her mom was bringing the kid over and she'd call me later. on the phone she was like "i don't have L[her kid] all weekend" and i said "ok sounds great. i'm sure we can find some time" and she said "yea but i do have a few obligations. i'll give you a call in an hour and a half. is that ok?" and ofc i said yes.

she never called. i sent her the last text i plan on sending saying "hey, not sure when you're going to bed and wanted to see what day works best for you." gave her a short version of my schedule and asked if she was off monday.

no response.

so all signs point to this is on the way out but i wanted to ask my friend. this would not be a good idea, right?

all throughout the time we were dating (or whatever) my friend did a *really* good job of not letting on anything the girl told her. so i feel like it's not a good look to ask my friend "hey, have you heard anything from H...she seems a bit distant atm"

given whatever mistakes i may have already made or if she's just not into it anymore, i don't think complicating it w/ bringing it up to my friend makes sense. i can just wait for her to bring it up (prob next time we chat) and i'll say something kinda vague and sees what she says (just like "yea i haven't heard much from H and haven't seen her in a bit" which she'll obv already know).

thankfully, either way i don't see this ending badly w/ my friend which was an initial concern.

DcifrThs · 05-24-2012, 11:38 PM

read some stuff in the SL dating thing. i don't even get half the stuff. TR is *def* trip report i presume.

what's GG? i assumed GG but it was used in a context where GG made no sense so that's gotta be something else.

that said, even though nobody gave this any love, i thought it was pretty funny:

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So I just met this really amazing girl...well, we had an interaction several years ago but I'm not even sure that she really remembers me to be honest. We have spent a lot of time around eachother in the past few days but I haven't really been able to find a way to tell her how I truly feel about her. The problem is that soon we will be forced to fight eachother to the death so it kinda makes my situation a bit awkward. I'm gonna be interviewed in front of the entire country tomorrow...I'm thinking I might just profess my love during that interview...thoughts?

scrolls · 05-25-2012, 12:05 AM

If it was a mutual guy friend I'd ask if he's reasonable with bro code, but I wouldn't bring it up with a girl, unless you and her are very close and her and H aren't that close. Girls love to gossip and I envision friend hanging up with you and calling H and telling her everything you just told her. I certainly have two or three female friends I can trust to not tell things to other mutual female friends, but not many.

And GG is a poster (GoodGame is his name though so it kind of meant what you thought lol) who posts a lot of TRs in that thread. That thread is pretty entertaining to follow, although I'm <2 years removed from college so it may not be as fun to you.

Colin_Piddle · 05-25-2012, 12:16 AM

DcFiR- I didnt mean to offend you, I just feel you are average to maybe slightly above average. Its good that you think your good looking and chicks compliment on you that. At the end of the day it doesent matter wtf you look like its about getting the ladies that matters. I can tell you have some good game good luck with it all man.

El Diablo · 05-25-2012, 12:22 AM

Dcifr,

Of course don't bring it up w/ your friend. If you were interested in a serious relationship with this woman, then there MIGHT at least be some rationale for somehow broaching the topic. But you wanted and had a casual non-exclusive relationship with this woman, and most likely it has just run its course, so there's absolutely no reason to mention anything about this to the friend. Just let it fade away naturally. Play it cool and there's a decent chance this turns into an occasional booty call type thing until she finds a real relationship.

DcifrThs · 05-25-2012, 08:42 AM

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Originally Posted by El Diablo

Dcifr,

Of course don't bring it up w/ your friend. If you were interested in a serious relationship with this woman, then there MIGHT at least be some rationale for somehow broaching the topic. But you wanted and had a casual non-exclusive relationship with this woman, and most likely it has just run its course, so there's absolutely no reason to mention anything about this to the friend. Just let it fade away naturally. Play it cool and there's a decent chance this turns into an occasional booty call type thing until she finds a real relationship.

yea, gut was right here. letting it fade away. sux though b/c we were super compatible in the sex department. ofc of the 2 girls i would have been seeing this summer i liked her the best lol. i like my exgf most of all b/c she'll be staying for 4 days and leaving (i.e. not subjected to her craziness long term) but whatever.

i guess some slight chance it may not fade away but i'm assuming it will and i'll let it go gracefully. im fine w/ the occasional booty call thing but would prefer once a week w/ her. oh well, can't have it all i suppose.

Crozbee · 05-25-2012, 12:06 PM

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Originally Posted by Colin_Piddle

DcFiR- I didnt mean to offend you, I just feel you are average to maybe slightly above average. Its good that you think your good looking and chicks compliment on you that. At the end of the day it doesent matter wtf you look like its about getting the ladies that matters. I can tell you have some good game good luck with it all man.

but wtf is up with the random posting talking about how Dcifr looks? i think he posted some pics MONTHS ago when someone asked what he looks like. seemed like your post was in response to Dcifr somewhere saying he was really good looking but i don't see that post anywhere so yours was really random.

Colin_Piddle · 05-25-2012, 02:31 PM

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Originally Posted by Crozbee

but wtf is up with the random posting talking about how Dcifr looks? i think he posted some pics MONTHS ago when someone asked what he looks like. seemed like your post was in response to Dcifr somewhere saying he was really good looking but i don't see that post anywhere so yours was really random.

I read the whole thread at once

DcifrThs · 05-26-2012, 01:53 PM

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Originally Posted by Colin_Piddle

I read the whole thread at once

like from start to finish?

and does this include the jwhitt sidethread?

BeeDog · 05-29-2012, 02:34 PM

I've been dating this girl for a little over a year. I'm crazy in love with her, and we recently moved in together. Right now she's out of town, and last night I got really drunk, and ended up making out with a female friend for a minute. I'm totally torn up and SO angry at myself for doing. I'm quite certain it'll never happen again. Do I tell the gf and risk blowing everything up, or should I just keep it to myself and deal with the guilt internally? For what it's worth, I think she'd probably forgive me, but I don't know if the honesty is worth the risk.